How To Improve Your Intimacy Quotient & Lure Him In


How To Improve Your Intimacy Quotient & Lure Him In
The key to your allure resides in your ability to deeply connect with a man on an emotional level.

Your intimacy quotient is crucial for a man to go from "attracted to you" to "totally intoxicated by you"! This quotient is measured by how intimate your energy feels to him--whether he wants to get closer and closer to you or not, by the way you interact with him in quiet, loving and romantic moments.

Your capacity for deep levels of intimacy is all related to how much physical and emotional closeness you can tolerate and even INVITE with a man.


Are you fully available to 'melt into him' during pillow talk? Can you take a walk on the beach and turn it into the greatest memories of tenderness and mutual understanding he has ever known? Can you open him up like a book and get him willingly talking to you about secrets he's never told any other woman?

Here are some tips to help you be more intimate with men and magnetize them with your ability to make them feel more connected to another human being than they ever thought possible:

Enthrall Him With Your Feminine Vulnerability

One reason I believe that 50 Shades of Grey is so popular is because most women want to feel their soft side when in love but many of us need to be submitted into it because we have hardened ourselves to get through life in the modern world. We ladies want to feel ooey and gooey and fragile and vulnerable in our hearts, but, these days, many women have to be tough in the work force and at home raising kids.  The idea of having a controlling, power-hungry man who 'gentlemanly' forces submission can thus be very appealing and exactly what a lady needs to feel her own vulnerability.

The thing is, not only do women want to feel more vulnerable to their soft side, men want this, too. Men want a woman who is submissive in a way-- not submissive to him necessarily, but to her own soft, feminine vulnerability.

Men are the thinkers and women are the feelers. How often do you hear men talk about their emotions? It's because we women are more connected to our feelings and even though men tire fast of emotionally chaotic women, they LOVE our soft vulnerability.

When you can be soft, sweet and vulnerable when with a man, you are seducing him with your silkiness, as I call it. When you think of being intimate, somehow candles and wine and SILKY bedsheets come to mind. Just like the idea of rubbing up against a silk sheet is enticing and alluring, you want the idea of coming close to you to be just as delicious. Your silkiness is your soft-spoken, supple, feminine side that is calm, loving, still, inviting, vulnerable... and LAZY like a porch cat on a hot summer afternoon.

See, men are the doers and shakers in the relationship. Women are the ones who should be in their female energy and do NOTHING but be available to a man's affection and attention. Men don't want a woman to nurture them and do for them; real men want women who have self-love enough to be comfortable receiving male attention and affection.  Men live to pamper the right woman and see her appreciation reflected back in her eyes.

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Ms. Kristina Marchant


Is the man you love emotionally distant?  Maybe he runs hot then cold, or maybe he has slowly been distancing himself over time?  If so, you are have something in common with the women who read and follow my blog,  Come take a look and sign up there for my free mini-course: "Why Men Fall In & Out Of Love...  And What You Can Do"



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