5 Things To Consider Before Getting A Divorce

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5 Things To Consider Before Getting A Divorce
The implications to take into account before making a life-changing decision.

Divorce is so common these days that it boggles the mind. Of course things change with the passing of time, and no one expects everything to be the same, but divorce 50 years ago compared to now is a completely different animal. It's more common for sure, but also more socially acceptable, considered more healthy, definitely more likely, and considerably more possible than ever before.

An end to a marriage can be obtained quite easily in most states, and there are ways to expedite the process if you so desire. But are there costs associated with this facile process, and do people doing the deed know the price they might pay? Before you go through with a legal severing of a marriage from which there's little chance of turning back, consider the following questions.


Is It The Right Thing To Do?

This a big question, and it will mean different things to different people in different situations. The first thing to consider is, the right thing for whom? Maybe you feel as though you have no other option, and for you it is the only possibility. But there may be other people to consider in this situation. Obviously, the effect of divorce on children must be weighed against the effect of bringing them up in a possibly dysfunctional home. And the effect on your spouse has to be thought about, even if it ranks far below your own needs. Can you live with what it might mean to him or her? There will come a point in this process where you must decide whose needs are a priority. If the consistent answer is your own, then you have a clear answer to the question posed - it is the right thing at this time, for you.


What Are Your Expectations?

Many times faulty human beings live in a kind of fantasy world. They believe that if only they were not stuck in a loveless marriage, if only they were with the right person, they would be able to find true love and therefore real and lasting happiness. But the more experience you have with love and relationships, the more you begin to see that an intimate relationship is a crucible of sorts that determines a person's character and determines a timeline of life events. What may matter more than the particulars of the experience is the experience itself - with major exceptions of course. If there is abuse of any kind in a marriage, or a situation where deception has taken place, or any of a dozen other justifiable issues, then it is likely that divorce is the only possible scenario. Just be sure that you can honestly assess your situation and categorize it accordingly, and that your expectation are not unrealistically high.

 

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