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Alternative Lifestyles and Same Sex Relationships May Help Bridge the Mind-Body Men-Women Gap.
Alternative Lifestyles and Same Sex Relationships May Help Bridge the Mind-Body Men-Women Gap.

Young girls in our society grow up amongst their girlfriends many of whom are already having sex and are sexually active. Many girls are sexually active by 12 or 14. Physically it may seem that they are ready. Mentally it is a whole other story. Girls between the ages of 12 -24 are craving emotional closeness, boys of that age are driven by their hormones, erections happening at the drop of a pin.

Young girls in our society grow up amongst their girlfriends many of whom are already having sex and are sexually active. Many girls are sexually active by 12 or 14. Physically it may seem that they are ready. Mentally it is a whole other story. Girls between the ages of 12 -24 are craving emotional closeness, boys of that age are driven by their hormones, erections happening at the drop of a pin. Girls are driven by a desire to connect and they end up pairing up with boys (often with detrimental and undesirable effects) of similar age who’s greatest physical desire overpowers any emotional need.

The hormones in boys age 12-24 is raging, desirous and needing of release. The girls often begin engaging in sexual activity early, because physically they feel the need, and they can somewhere recognize the desire, but most of all they recognize the need and desire to be accepted, wanted, desired and appreciated, their focus intently on the boys.

Girls follow their instinct, and their gut intuition tells them to give in sexually to the boys who ask, desire and persist. Girls give in to the boys in hopes of getting some deep connection, acceptance in return. What really happens In return unfortunately they don't get what they want emotionally and they are left unfulfilled physically, emotionally and of course sexually, which leads to the gamut of emotions from feeling judged and/or rejected which leads to low self esteem, poor body image and so on.

This is not a story about whether or not girls should abstain from sex nor is it about sex education. This is about what happens to many women in our society and what we can do to bridge the gap between sex and our bodies when the time is right.

In Ancient Greece, boys at around the age of 14 would begin sexual exploration with men of the same sex before venturing out and turning their sexual prowess onto the female gender with whom they would be expected to have long term loving, sexual and romantic relations and of course children. The truth of the matter is that men do want emotional connection. Boys grow up into men who want intimate emotional connections beyond the physical and sexual, and girls grow up into women who are sexual and physically desirous. The cruel joke is that the cycles at which these present for men and women are almost at extreme opposites in terms of age. For boys who are attracted to girls, before the cycle is complete, getting involved sexually and emotionally, it’s no wonder there is so much turmoil and discontent.

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Moushumi Ghose

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Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

She is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

Visit her website at www.LASexTherapist.com

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Listen to podcasts at Sex, Love and Rock 'N' Roll Radio.

Mou is the author of Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon, and is currently writing her second book, about non-monogamous sex. 

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Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LMFT, MA, MFT
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