My tip is the easiest and the hardest because it is all about a change of attitude. If you have any expectations about your children—who they are, what they will do, how they will act—you are bound to be disappointed and will find yourself battling your children like they are the enemy. Give up expectations, step into loving acceptance, don't force your will on them, and you will give them a gift of self-esteem that will last a lifetime! I wish someone told me this one when my children were young!
Every day, spend a little time looking and smelling nice. It has an instant pick-me-up that boosts your mood and confidence all day.
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Plan ahead. If you don't ask you won't receive. Ask your hubby to care of the kids on Thursday because you have a girls night out. If he has legitimate plans (not just a "we'll see" kind of answer) negotiate for another night. In the best of all worlds plan at least one regular night where he is completely responsible for the children each week. Many women don't like to relinquish their care for the children. Help him learn. Both of you will come to expect and enjoy the change from your regular routine. Win $550 Worth Of Luxury Goods From Henri Bendel!
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As an overworked mom I have just recently realized that the single most predictable way for me to unwind is to see a movie in a movie theatre. With this new realization I am now being very proactive about seeing movies because it's actually more about my mental health than the movie itself. So I suggest finding the most predictable activity that unwinds you (but doesn't require anyone else to avoid being at the mercy of other busy friends) and arrange your schedule so it happens predictably!
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I highly recommend a gratitude journal or an end of the day check-in with a loved one. Ask the question "What was the best part of this day," or "What are you grateful for today." Even better do this naked while cuddling with your honey. Love Bytes: Are Mama's Boys Better Husbands?