Most of us are afraid of being alone. We fear we won't find our true love, ultimately dying void of companionship (minus the obligatory clowder of cats, of course). Luckily, this fear isn't always warranted and many of us will find that person who completes us and will have a happily Jerry Maguired life.
But, finding someone doesn't just happen — it takes effort. Sometimes, it even takes a little tweaking of your attitude. In fact, there are three types of women who need a little more than tweaking — they need a mindset makeover. These women can best be categorized as Negative Nancy, Positive Paula, and Fated Farrah. Read on to learn what types of qualities these women possess and why it's a hurdle when looking for love.
Most of us know a woman or two who is a Negative Nancy. When you talk about vitamins, she'll bring up cancer. When you discuss the Baltimore Ravens, she says she has bird flu. When you talk about your wedding day, she'll offer you divorce statistics. In other words, she is the type of person who deserves a soundtrack, the "wah wah waaahhhh" of a sad trombone blowing each time she opens her mouth.
The Negative Nancy is an equal opportunity naysayer. She is negative in nearly all aspects of her life, particularly dating. She may find a man with whom she is completely compatible with only to nitpick his every flaw. The way he chews his food, the color of his socks, and the fact that he misused "whom" and "who" may each be enough to make her want to end the relationship.
Negative Nancy is destined to be alone for a few reasons. First of all, she is holding out for the perfect man (whom or who?) doesn't exist and, even if she did find someone near-perfect, she would eventually only focus on his imperfections. Second of all, negativity begets negativity. When you focus on nothing but the bad stuff, you will find the bad wherever you look. It's no way to date, and no way to live.
On the opposite end of the spectrum sits Positive Paula, a woman so positive that she can spin just about everything; she looks at leprosy as a wonderful way to lose weight, for instance. In many ways, the attitude Positive Paula exhibits is beneficial. Her positive attitude helps her see the best in people, find solutions to problems, and gives her hope in the direst circumstances.
However, Positive Paula’s mindset can cause problems in a few different ways. To begin, rose-colored glasses almost always lose their focus. This means that Positive Paula's can leave you seeing situations as positive when they are anything but.