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4 Common Gay Sex Myths Debunked!

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Gay couples have the same sexual appetites as straight couples!
Don't believe everything you hear about gay sex.

When it comes to gay sex, there tend to be a lot of misconceptions among the heterosexual community. How do lesbians have sex, anyway? Are all gay men promiscuous? All people, gay and straight, have standards when it comes to our sex lives; some are obvious, and some may surprise you. Let's take a peek inside the world of gay sex and determine, for once and for all, which rumors are true and which are simply bogus.

1. Gays and lesbians are promiscuous. Just because we enjoy our sex with a person who has the same body parts doesn't mean we are loose, easy, want to have sex with straight people or cheat on our partners any more than straight people cheat on their partners. In a study done by OkCupid, a free online dating site with 1.6 million users, they learned that straight, gay and lesbian individuals on their site have had an average of six sexual partners. That debunks the notion that gay men are having so much sex they barely have time to pull their pants up.

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It also says that as a whole, we are remarkably the same as heterosexuals about our sexual appetites.

2. Gays and lesbians are chasing straight people for sex. First off, most straight guys are decidedly not that attractive to either gay men or lesbians. And most lesbians will tell you that your very heterosexual girlfriend is not that much of a turn on either. Lesbians love our toaster gift joke, and we pull it out whenever a woman is coming out and especially if she is a late bloomer to the lesbian scene. We appreciate that Ellen created that myth for us (the joke being that if you convert someone to being lesbian, you win a toaster oven!), but we aren't chasing after your straight girlfriend or boyfriend.

Gays and lesbians aren't trying to convert you to our way of life. You see, we do understand that sexual orientation isn't something we chose, but it's part of our human experience, just like someone being heterosexual. We're happy to let folks be heterosexual while we enjoy our own homosexual lives.

OkCupid looked at data that showed gays and lesbians are not searching for straight people to date. Duh! We aren't confused. It's simple.

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This myth is like saying that straight people want to have sex with anyone that is straight. Yuck! Finding someone that you are attracted to and that you get along with well enough to have a long-term relationship is as difficult for gays and lesbians as it is for straight folk. Why on earth would we force ourselves to have sex with someone we are not attracted to? Keep reading ...

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Mary G. Malia

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