Current television programs, magazine articles, movies and music don't represent marriage very well. The area they do the worst job covering is married sex. In many ways, even though most of the single people I know want to get married, the marriage rate has gone down. Couples who believed that cohabitating would keep their sex hot have been disillusioned and disappointed when they find out that what keeps sex hot is the security of a committed relationship. 4 Intense Proven Intimacy cures for 2012
Moving in together without a commitment to one another may have made the sex better at first, but once the couple began leaning more on one another and having expectations of one another, the sex dwindled just as it does in a marriage that isn't working. No matter how perfect you are for one another or how great your marriage is, you will get bored with one another from time to time. It is fascinating to talk with a couple that has been married for twenty years while you try to imagine what they still see in each other.
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How can anything be novel or exciting, and how do they beat the boredom? What you must remember is, no one is the same person each day, each month, or each year. A healthy marriage helps each person grow and evolve. The healthier the marriage, the more you can embrace and expect each person to grow and change. The way a couple communicates its love changes, too. 5 Ways To Keep The Sparks Flying In Your Marriage
My husband says things and touches me now in a way that is much deeper than when we first married. When we're apart and speaking on the phone, our way of communicating is different than it was when we first married. I get him, and he gets me. Couples who have been happily married for a long time understand the concept of feeling "freer" in marriage than they were when single. A healthy marriage supports both people's ability to become the people they want to become.
Great sex is highly correlated with understanding your partner. For women, the more secure and comfortable they are with their partner, the more unconventional and open to new things they will be. This affects their partner and is what makes their partner love sex with them. Men's need for visual variety is much higher than women's. Men may use this as an excuse for why they visit men's clubs or invest in pornography, when in truth, this is a rote, "in the box thinking," excuse. 4 Ways To Stop The Nagging Inside
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