When I learned he cheated, I thought I was doomed to a lifelong sentence of victimhood. To my surprise, less than two years later, I no longer feel like a victim, I feel like a survivor. Now, I want to show you how you can be a survivor, too!
When you first find out about an affair, life seems like it's not yours anymore ... as if you've been transported into one of those reality TV shows you get sucked into week after week, dying to know what happens next. Only with this particular show, you don't want to know what happens next.
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At first, you don't know what to do, what to believe, what to think. I remember going through the motions. I just wanted to wait and see what would happen. My life had become so unpredictable. When the affair was out in the open, my mind took over in the pain deliverance. It was agony to go through the process of infidelity recovery, but I'm so glad that I did. What To Do When He Cheats & Leaves
Step 1: Allow Yourself To Feel The Pain
Your mind and body know what to do to deal with tragedy. Fighting it will only make you physically ill. It's your body's sign that you are not allowing it to heal. Resisting your body to heal further could cause you to feel pain longer or you may end up manifesting it in other ways. For example, have you ever seen individuals who are quick to negatively react to situations? They always complain. They will never be happy with their relationships. Unresolved issues can be devastating to your future.
Remember: It is better to be unhappy now than unhappy for the rest of your life.
So how do you feel the pain? Experience it. When you want to cry, let the tears flow freely until you don't feel like crying anymore.
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