There was once something called The ART of lovemaking. Who is teaching us about love and sex today?
The Kama Sutra, The Perfumed Garden, and a vast variety of Chinese writings were all love-making manuals from different parts of the world, that gave specific instructions on how to create "the perfect union" between man and woman and let them exchange energies in the most health bringing way.
Speaking of sex and health, reports are starting to prove what the ancient Chinese knew very well, that there is a clear connection between a healthy sexual life and a positive mind and a healthy body. The Chinese stressed the importance of mastering the sexual life correctly and therefore educated lovers thoroughly in the art of lovemaking for health purposes.
This education is now long gone and only given to the privileged few. But other forms of sexual education still exists – in some African countries sex aunts and sex uncles are appointed to give young men and women a sexual upbringing, so that they learn how to give their partner pleasure because the society gives it spoken priority.
I am from Denmark and our kids learn about sex in the class room for an hour. They learn about sexually transferred diseases and how to prevent pregnancy. How to obtain "the perfect union" with a partner or to exchange energies with a loved one in order to live emotionally, mentally and physically healthy lives is left to the porn industry to teach them – and us.
My country is renowned for its sexually liberated society. Women can have sex with whom and as many and whenever they want without being judged (mostly). Men can do the same and people with a variety of sexual orientations are much more accepted here than in any other country in the world. Regardless, the alarming taboo, which no media or educational system addresses is how we actually learn to connect with our partners on a profound, life changing level through the art of lovemaking instead of by the mechanics of a 10 minute screw of the body next to us.
I think it is time to get the art of making love in a connected and skilled way on the curriculum again. Not only for the pleasure of it but because it is vital for the human state of mental and physical health and harmony and thus for our entire society.
What do you think? Let me know!
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