It's more simple than you think.
When I read articles written by women about "what men want," I always raise my eyebrows. However, as a woman who’s coached and been inside the minds of hundreds of men, I have a little insight into how they think about sex.
One thing is for sure: women over-complicate what goes on in the male mind, and there's no place women make it more complicated than on the subject of sex.
Just Google it. There is no shortage of articles on how to please a man in bed. It's ironic because a man with an erection is a happy man.
The real question might be how a woman can make sure SHE'S pleased in bed. That, however, is a whole other can of worms.
Khloe Kardashian was recently on the "Howard Stern Show" where she gave her best tips on how to give good blow job. She proclaimed herself an expert at giving blow jobs by saying she’s never gotten any complaints. By that standard, most women can put themselves in the blow job hall of fame.
Let’s face it, any man lucky enough to have that action going on isn’t likely to complain. Most men are just thrilled to be in the game, and any sex is great sex because it’s WAY better than no sex.
What I’ve learned from men is that great sex has nothing to do with being a model or a gymnast and everything to do with being vulnerable and present.
Any woman can be a rock star in bed. Just follow these four simple steps:
1. Be willing to be seen.
Men are by nature visual creatures. Men want to see the goods they are going to touch. Leave the lights on. Don’t hide yourself under covers. Sure it’s vulnerable, maybe even terrifying. However, if you allow yourself to be seen, you’re about 90% there regarding being the best lover he ever had.
2. Tell him what you like, what you want and what you don't.
Men have no idea what to do with your body. They may as well be flying with blinders on in the dark.
You don’t come with an instruction manual he can read up on before hitting the sheets, so it’s on you to praise and appreciate what feels delightful to help him find his way. Men are way more performance driven — his arousal is directly proportionate to him feeling like he pleases his woman. So, let him know what pleases you. You’ll both be glad you did.
3. Speaking of what pleases you, be willing to ask for it.
Men are turned on by a woman who knows what turns her on and will go after it. They like to be in the driver’s seat. However, a man also likes a woman who’s willing to take the wheel and steer towards her pleasure. Chances are being shy won’t get you off, and it won’t help him get you off either.
4. Savor HIS body too.
You know how women hate it when a man goes from a peck of a kiss straight to her crotch in 5.5 seconds? Well, men don’t hate that.
However, they enjoy a woman who will take the time to enjoy his parts in between. Be curious. Be slow. Be the woman who savors his entire body. That’s the kind of woman he’s going to crave more of because he felt like you craved him, all of him.
Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. To get Lisa's free audio, "How to Talk to a Man" click here. You may also purchase her book, "Score Your Soulmate."