What To Do When You've Grown Apart: 5 Tips To Renew Your Love


If your relationship has lost it's sizzle, here are a few tips to get you back on track.

Drifting apart can happen right before your very eyes while you wonder in amazement what happened. In this fast paced world, it is easy to fall prey to a number of things that take you away from your relationship. Career, education, children, volunteer work, extended family, and religious activities are all vying for attention. The fact of the matter is that your relationship needs time and attention as well in order to grow. A relationship left unattended will wither away. If your relationship is in need of a love renewal, here are five tips to get you back on track.

Make your relationship a top priority

In making your relationship a priority, you have to be intentional. Sure there are things that get in the way, but you have to create a space for your love for one another to grow. When a partner feels neglected, negativity rears its ugly head and begins to drain your love bank.

Spend quality time together

Spending time together is the best way to draw closer to one another. Use the time you spend together to connect with each other. This is not the time to talk about the children, work or bills. During the time you spend together, don't use it all on talking. Take walks together holding hands, snuggle up together and watch a movie. Play your favorite board or card game. This time is about bonding and reconnecting. Leave all the cares of the day behind and enjoy one another.

Share a hobby or interest

Find something that the two of you are passionate about that you can participate in together? Do you love to cook? Perhaps you can take a cooking class or prepare meals together. Have you always talked about dancing but never got around to it. Maybe you haven't discovered what that special thing is yet. Have a brainstorming session to come up with ideas of things you're both interested in.

Take a trip down memory lane

Reminiscing about the good old days tend to bring back those loving feelings. Looking back reminds you of the things that brought you together in the first place; the love you shared that you were sure would last until the end of time. Dust off those old photo albums and home movies. Create a couples' scrapbook together. Take some time to reflect on where you started from and how you can build on that original foundation.

Get to know each other all over again

If you've grown apart, chances are that you have both pursued interests outside of one another. If that is the case, you must take the time to get to know each other again. Schedule weekly lunch or dinner dates to share with one another what has been happening in your world. Try to find ways to get those separate worlds to merge together. This is the time to talk about each other, your relationship, and your goals and dreams for the future. Ask each other meaningful questions like you did in the beginning. Take a real interest in one another. Get involved in the activities your partner enjoys. You may find you like what the other is up to and that may become your shared interest.

If you want your love to stay fresh and new, you must put forth a conscious effort to pay attention to your relationship and your partner. You don't have to drift apart, it is perfectly possible for you to grow together.

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