I’m frequently approached with the question “Kim, I really want a man in my life and I just don’t understand why I’m not meeting anyone!?”
Attracting a man is not rocket science. Attracting the RIGHT one however can be a little trickier. Most women I coach are dating at a later stage in life – often after long marriages that kept them off the dating scene
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If you’re in this demographic, re-entering the dating arena may seem like a daunting task. All kinds of issues can come up around age, body image and availability of good men – something the younger set won’t necessarily be concerned about in the same way.
The advantage you have over most 20 something’s is your level of confidence. Life experience has helped you get clear about who you are and hone in on exactly what you want – including where you will no longer compromise in relationship with a man.
The challenge for women in late 30’s and 40’s lies in your ability to receive. You’ve spent most of your adult life getting educated and the rest working on your career. It’s wonderful you’ve achieved success in your life, but I find many women have become like men in the sense you’re continually producing everything yourself, leaving little room for a man to help.
Love is an inside job. Manifesting what you want starts with the inner part of you first. It’s not about getting your body, hair, makeup and online profile perfect. It’s about creating an ideal environment for a man to come in.
When I work with my private clients, this is our whole focus from the start. I developed this method of working from the inside out because so many women who approach me have preconceived notions about men and don’t believe their ideal man exists.
Time and again my clients have big breakthroughs and attract a man (often several!) just by making a few small mindset and lifestyle adjustments. In celebration of all women “of a certain age” out there, I’d like to share 3 easy-to-implement action steps you can do right now to help activate the energy of attracting the love you want.
1. Be a Piggy for Your Pleasure
Men consistently confide what attracts them to a woman is her ability to receive pleasurable experiences. Sadly, most modern women have taken ON doing so much, they’re unhappy and burnt out– unwittingly repelling potential mates. If this is you, create some down time this weekend and make a list of what clearly brings you joy AND what no longer brings you joy in your life. Proceed to Step 2.
2. Create Your Want List and Publish It
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After assessing your list, see what you’re willing to delete for good and send it on its merry way. Then, all that you still want to have, but don’t necessarily have a desire to produce for yourself anymore, goes on your Want List. On a fresh page, write at the top: (Your Name) _______’s Want List and list out all the things you would love to have, but don’t want to produce for yourself. Then, Post it on your fridge (not stuffed in a drawer!) Proceed to Step 3.
3. Ask and You WILL Receive