The Surprising Way To Get Your Ex Back

The Surprising Way To Get Your Ex Back

The Surprising Way To Get Your Ex Back

That is, if you even want him back when you're done!

Welcome to Splitville! It hurts like hell, doesn't it? There is nothing that stirs your equilibrium like a love lost. Your body just goes numb; this is the lowest low you have ever felt in your entire life. Everything is so gloomy, and you can't see pass today. If you do it's all scary stuff ... a life void of meaning and happiness (this knowledge will save your relationship: is he truly emotionally unavailable or does your anxiety make him so).

My forum is a place I hear this story over and over again. People recount their heartbreak stories and seek advice so they can reunite with their beloved. So strong the bondage of romantic love is that people will do anything to recapture it. But here's one piece of advice that will help you heal faster and in the process, reattract him back (and the likelihood is you no longer want him back when that happens!) Drop all that yearning and pining now! (Here's some quick pointers on how to seduce a man with your feminine mystique)  And just move on.  

Yeah, move on...


Take it from me! Your mind can't do the work for you right now. It's so shaky and vulnerable, so even when you can't control it right at this second, you can at least be assured that this is not the end. Far from it. And that things will get better. When you hit rock bottom, the only way you can go is up. And I'm here to help you how.

I've been in your shoes: Many sleepless nights, desperate dreams, days spent crying and curling in bed wondering how you're going to survive with a heart so devastatingly crushed, so excruciatingly pained. The fear. The saltiness of extreme sadness like nothing else you ever imagined or experienced in your life before. The loneliness.

I got it. I have been to hell and back a few dozen times the last four years (only the last year or so I was able to truly move on). I know how you're feeling exactly, every minute of it. The struggle, the maddening conflicting strong currents of emotions, the obsession, the depression — I've been through it all. 

If you have just broken up with your lover, don't waste as much time as I did suffering terribly. Get yourself together to hop on the self-growth journey that will make you a magnet to great lovers/relationship ... and your ex! You could master the skills to cope with this agony while at the same time pave the way for him/her to go back to you sooner — if you still want it! (Often times when you have become a better person and you have grown larger than the relationship itself, you know what you deserve and won't settle to a relationship that didn't serve you). 

My mistake was I clung and strategized in my mind how to get him back all the time. The obsession was so consuming, and I wasted so much time and energy not focusing on things that really mattered: me. I was so tired of grieving that I had no choice but to move on. And now that I have, I lost the desire to get back with my ex, and I am in the most fulfilling relationship of my life. All is the result of me moving on. Keep reading ...

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In fact, I have helped many of my clients and readers to get their exes back or have their guys step up to the plate and claim them when they practice my tools and use my principles of leaning back and moving on.  

The good news is getting your ex back is perhaps easier to do than you thought. The bad news is it takes a lot of work not focusing on the other person: To change him, to be on top of what he's doing, who he's seeing and what you can do to stop him from doing so, to manipulate him, make him think of or want/miss us (though there are techniques to do so, in the long run it's not about any of this), but mainly about working on oneself.

I heard that a lot. Work on yourself; focus on yourself. I didn't really get the gist of what it meant — on the most substantive, intuitive level that is — until only the past two years or so after months of absolute heartache. It's about mind control, management of emotions, and cultivating self-esteem. 

I found the answer: There is only one way to get your ex back to you and to make yourself happy, self-sufficient, content and excited about life. To build your life separate from your ex and find it as a source of endless enjoyment and passion. To live life to the fullest. To love yourself first and foremost. To believe that you, for the sake of yourself, deserve to be loved and treated with utmost respect, no more and no less. You need to turn your life around to get the love you deserve, be it with your ex or with someone else presumably better.

If you're not happy being alone with yourself, there is little chance you will get on the reconciliation path with ease. Why? Because you need lots of peace of mind to keep yourself on track and sane during this trial and tribulation phase. And I'm sure you've tasted it yourself by now, when you mind is hooked and obsessed toward wanting to be with your ex. You'll be suffering and radiating so much neediness that it in turn will translate into an aggravating and imbalanced behavior that will repel him.

At one point I even hired a coach to help me deal with myself. Yes, you yourself is your number one enemy in reconciliation process. You are plagued with doubt and self-esteem issues, not even sure if you're worthy of love enough that your ex will want to go back to you. In your desperation, you're