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Welcome to Splitville! It hurts like hell, doesn't it? There is nothing that stirs your equilibrium like a love lost. Your body just goes numb; this is the lowest low you have ever felt in your entire life. Everything is so gloomy, and you can't see pass today. If you do it's all scary stuff ... a life void of meaning and happiness (this knowledge will save your relationship: is he truly emotionally unavailable or does your anxiety make him so).
My forum is a place I hear this story over and over again. People recount their heartbreak stories and seek advice so they can reunite with their beloved. So strong the bondage of romantic love is that people will do anything to recapture it. But here's one piece of advice that will help you heal faster and in the process, reattract him back (and the likelihood is you no longer want him back when that happens!) Drop all that yearning and pining now! (Here's some quick pointers on how to seduce a man with your feminine mystique) And just move on.
Yeah, move on...
Take it from me! Your mind can't do the work for you right now. It's so shaky and vulnerable, so even when you can't control it right at this second, you can at least be assured that this is not the end. Far from it. And that things will get better. When you hit rock bottom, the only way you can go is up. And I'm here to help you how. (Three Steps To Make Him Fall In Love With You All Over Again)
I've been in your shoes: Many sleepless nights, desperate dreams, days spent crying and curling in bed wondering how you're going to survive with a heart so devastatingly crushed, so excruciatingly pained. The fear. The saltiness of extreme sadness like nothing else you ever imagined or experienced in your life before. The loneliness.
I got it. I have been to hell and back a few dozen times the last four years (only the last year or so I was able to truly move on). I know how you're feeling exactly, every minute of it. The struggle, the maddening conflicting strong currents of emotions, the obsession, the depression — I've been through it all. (Here are the real reasons he's pulling away and the kind of woman he'll stick around for)
If you have just broken up with your lover, don't waste as much time as I did suffering terribly. Get yourself together to hop on the self-growth journey that will make you a magnet to great lovers/relationship ... and your ex! You could master the skills to cope with this agony while at the same time pave the way for him/her to go back to you sooner — if you still want it! (Often times when you have become a better person and you have grown larger than the relationship itself, you know what you deserve and won't settle to a relationship that didn't serve you).
My mistake was I clung and strategized in my mind how to get him back all the time. The obsession was so consuming, and I wasted so much time and energy not focusing on things that really mattered: me. I was so tired of grieving that I had no choice but to move on. And now that I have, I lost the desire to get back with my ex, and I am in the most fulfilling relationship of my life. All is the result of me moving on. Keep reading ...
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