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Exercise Your Sex Muscles

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Kegel exercises are important for a variety of reasons. For women, it keeps them from being incontinent. If you pee a tiny bit when you sneeze, laugh hard, or jump rope, you need to do your Kegels.

Many women who have never experienced orgasm are able to after strengthening their pubococcygeus or PC muscle, which is a hammock-like muscle, found in both sexes, that stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone), forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs.

Some women, by squeezing hard and pumping on their PC muscles, can bring themselves to orgasm. Those who do have orgasms can make them stronger and last longer with strong PC muscles. Some women think they can no longer have orgasms because they’re older or have gone through menopause. It could be that they have allowed their PC muscles to atrophy. Start doing Kegals and it is very likely the ability to orgasm will return.

There’s a love technique where you tighten your vagina around your partner’s penis when he’s inside of you. That can be very exciting for a man and feel great to you too. Having strong PC muscles is the only way to be able to do this.

Kegels help men have more control over their orgasms when they want to slow things down or, when they do have an orgasm, to make it stronger and last longer. If a man does Kegels while inside his partner, she can feel the pumping. Very pleasurable.

The way to do Kegel exercises is to simply squeeze, as if you were shutting off urination. Work up to 200 per day, squeeze for 5 seconds, then relax for 5 seconds. Do them in the car, while standing in line, in meetings, at your desk, watching television, or reading. You can also visit to find Kegel and Pelvic Exercisers.

It will take a while to build up your strength but the many benefits are worth the time and energy that it takes to develop a regular “PC muscles.”

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Kara Oh

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