How To Be Irresistible To Men

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How To Be Irresistible To Men
Award Winning Matchmaker, Cupid's Coach reveals the secrets to how to be irresistible to men.

Men crave us. They do, really. Study after study has shown that the happiest men are those who are in a loving relationship. How to be irrestible to men, so you can be found by that man who wants a loving partnership?

Smile. The number one thing you simply must know about how to be irresistible to a man is to use your natural smile, glowing from the inside, letting him know that you are a happy, healthy woman who brings fun and sunshine to the party. Check the mirror, study your current photos -- does this person look happy, fun to be with, loving and open-hearted? Even if you're having a bad day, the practice of smiling will lift your spirits and the spirits of everyone in your path. Today make it a point to smile 25% more than you normally do, and see how that impacts your interactions with men out there in the world.

Confidence. We're not talking about the tough, masculine energy we may demonstrate in the board room. A woman who is irrestistible to men? She's the woman who exudes confidence from her core as a feminine woman. She likes herself, she's not needy or clingy, she's got the inner confidence to be open-hearted, accessible, warm and engaging when in conversation. Men are resistent to women who are closed off, fearful, critical, judgemental. The irresistible woman is the one who has the confidence to be fully present, available and engaged in the present moment. This kind of woman is a bright, shining beacon to a man who has love to share.

Femininity and Grace. Look like a girl and more importantly ACT like a girl. Especially if we want to partner with a big, strong, masculine, take-charge kind of alpha male, we simply must reveal our soft, graceful, flowing feminine energy. How to be irrestible to men? The more feminine you are the more space there is for him to be The Guy. He wants to be The Guy. The woman who lets him be The Guy will be irrestible to him.

Mysteriously Challenging.  After a first meeting or a great first date, sit tight for a bit. Let him be The Guy. Resist the temptation to shoot off a flirtatious email or text message. Give him the chance to chase you. To be irresistible to men, we should always be responsive, flexible, accomodating and receptive, while also keeping hold of the reins, taking things slowly, revealing our cards carefully over the course of the first few dates. 

The FUN factor. Men are really just big kids and they ALL love to have fun. I asked one of my favorite gentlemen clients to share with me the one thing that he would recommend to women on how to be irresistible to men and he said "If she's not fun to be with, I don't care how gorgeous or smart or accomplished she might be, I'm just not interested..."

Bottom line, the women who are irristible to men?  It's an inside job!  Happiness, warmth, playfulness and an open heart that shines through your eyes and your natural, glowing smile.  Practice revealing yourself in this way and report back to me with your results!

 

Article contributed by

Julie Ferman

Dating Coach

Julie Ferman, Founder

www.JulieFerman.com

Awarded Best Matchmaker: 2013, 2012, 2011, 2010 by iDate and Online Personals Watch

Location: Westlake Village, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Life Management, Matchmaking
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