Are You A Smart Lady, But Dumb When It Comes To Love?

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Why intelligent women often struggle when it comes to men and dating.

Have you ever looked back over your past relationships and said to yourself "What the hell was I thinking?" 

As you honestly reflect on your past, you will see that the red flags were waving all around you. There was a chance you may not have picked up on them because you were blinded by what you thought was love. But if you get real with yourself, you will see that the red flags were there, waving right in front of your eyes, almost from the very beginning. But you chose to ignore them. Love Bytes: Are You A Victim Of Blind Love?

Right...? 

So why is it when it comes to matters of the heart, it is easy for you to make the wrong decisions over and over again?

One word: emotions. You see, as human beings we are primarily driven by the emotional part of our brains. It doesn't make a difference what our logical brain says, if we are emotionally attached to an outcome or situation, we almost always make the choice and decision based on what satisfies our immediate emotional needs. How To Stop Worrying About Your Biological Clock

You will this in almost every aspect of your life. You complain about your weight and how you don't like what you see in the mirror, yet you will eat that extra piece of cake. You say you can't afford something but when there is something you really want (emotions are high), you break out the credit card and charge it, even though your balances are getting harder and harder to pay off.

Nowhere is this more obvious than in your dating and relationships. You continue to stay with a guy, sometimes for years, no matter how unhappy and unfulfilled you are. Your intuition is telling you to run but you continue to stay. Why It's Important To Listen To Your Intuition

Why? 

Because your emotions are running the show. No matter how your reality sucks, you come up with every excuse, justification, and rationalization as to why you should stay. 

Why?

Because emotionally you want to stay. 

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to give your girlfriend advice in her love life but when it comes to your own you don't practice what you preach?

It's easy for you to see that the guy she is with isn't treating her the way she deserves, and you have no problem pointing out what is wrong with her relationship. To you, it's obvious what she should do. 

Yet, when you are in the same situation, you do the opposite. It doesn't make a difference how educated you are — if you don't learn to operate from the logical part of your brain and make your choices and decisions based on what is right and best, you will continue to ride the dating and relationship rollercoaster. 

And please don't pull that "But I love him" crap. Love does not mean that you become a human doormat for a guy to walk all over you and treat you in a way less than you deserve. 

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Joe Amoia

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Dr. Joe Amoia, is the founder and creator of Smarter Dating For Women And The Ultimate Relationship Program. He is also the author of the soon to be published book, Smarter Dating For Women.

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