Why Your Online Dating Profile Doesn't Work

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Learn the three ways your profile works against you.

If you are using online dating, you probably have noticed that it is much more difficult to meet good quality men than you thought it would be. Right? So why is it that some women can meet one quality guy after another and other women attract nothing but perverts and losers? Is it possible that there are underlying causes which are responsible for these discrepancies? Well, I believe there is.

Now, before I go any further let me say I am a huge advocate of online dating. Believe it or not, I actually met my wife on match.com over 13 years ago. At that time online dating was relatively new and had a stigma much greater than it is today. The reason I am such a huge advocate of online dating, apart from the obvious, is because I think it is one of the best ways to meet good quality matches. Can you think of another way of meeting lots of potential dates without ever leaving your home or office? Why I Would Remove "Love" From The Dictionary

Yes, there are inherent risks of meeting someone online. But if you really look at it, those risks are no different than meeting someone in the "real world." A person could lie and misrepresent himself just as easily if you met him out at a club. That is why I like online dating. If you know how to do it right, if you know how to screen men properly, if you know what questions to ask and you know how to spot the red flags, it becomes much easier to make online dating an enjoyable and productive experience.

Herein lies the problem. Most individuals who are using online dating are doing it absolutely wrong. Online dating is very similar to joining a gym. Just because you sign up for a membership does not mean that you are going to get results. If a person signs up for the gym and isn't getting in shape, it isn't the gym's fault is it?

Well, joining an online dating site and putting up a profile does not mean that you are going to meet the man (or woman) of your dreams. How do I know most people are doing it wrong? Because of the results and the experience they are getting. The majority of people using online dating are not having a favorable experience and they are not meeting the numbers and quality of potential matches that they would like. The Hidden Dangers Of Online Dating

There are several things a person needs to do to put themself in a position to win the online dating game. One of the most important things is to create a good profile. I've discovered that there are 3 major mistakes most online daters make in their profile. These mistakes are the main reason a person doesn't attract the type of person and number of people that they thought they would when they decided to join the online dating site.

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