How to make sure he wants you.
There's an old saying, "Everyone wants to buy. No one wants to be sold." This is especially true for men. When a guy meets you and feels attracted, he wants to buy you.
He wants to think he has discovered something so special that he has to have it. However, there also needs to be an element of risk. To put it simply, make him unsure if he can get you.
With that in mind, here are the 3 secrets on how to get a guy to like you:
1. Never ask where is this relationship going.
When you ask him where the relationship is going, he knows he has you.
Suddenly, he feels you're trying to sell him something. This is not a good position for you. If you find yourself wondering where a relationship is going, chances are, it's going nowhere.
But, "James I really want to know where the relationship is going." If you want to know where it's going, tell him what you require to be in a relationship, and it doesn't have to be with him, specifically. See if he's willing to negotiate with you from there.
2. Know your worth.
Men will pay any price to have you, and when it comes to love, they're not looking for a bargain.
The world will only pay you what you think you're worth. A woman who places a high value on herself gets paid in return. If you second guess yourself, you're selling yourself short.
Men will test you. They will test your patience to see if they can get a cheap deal and get you to take over the responsibility for the relationship. Remember to resist the urge to sell him anything.
3. Know when to say "no".
Men respect a woman with standards and boundaries. When you say "no" to a man when it's appropriate, it lets him know that you're not a pushover. If he wants to be with you, he will have to earn it.
Saying "no" means "I'm willing to lose you. However, I'm not willing to lose myself."
Self-love is very attractive to a man. It means he can count on you. It lets him know you're a real person and won't be taken lightly.
Remember, never ask a man where a relationship is going because if you do, a man thinks he owns you. A man will want you when you know your self-worth and know when to say "no". This is what men want in the women they love.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.
This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.