3 Secret Ways To Make Him Want A Relationship With You

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When you want him to want you long-term, here's what to do.

When a guy starts chasing you, it's an exhilarating feeling. He's calling and making plans. You're on your way to having a relationship.

The hard part is keeping him on the chase. If he drops off too soon, you're back to square one. You want to know how to get a guy to like you and keep you for a long time.

 

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With that in mind, here are three secrets that will keep him moving towards a relationship that will last:

1. Don't chase him. 


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When a guy starts chasing you, don't chase him back. Don't start making plans and inviting him to do things. Don't do that.

Men want to chase; they just don't want to be caught. If you turn the tables and chase him, he will lose interest.

 

2. Don't get too comfortable. 


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Courtship is about one person chasing the other. The amount of time a man invests in winning you over sets the tone for the entire relationship.

If you get too comfortable and forget the importance of courtship, you might think it's not necessary. I assure you: it is. Men fall in love when they give.

 

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3. Let it be his idea. 


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A man on the chase will stay on the chase as long as he's running after you. He has to think that he has to work to win you over and that he could lose you if he isn't attentive.

This requires a bit of patience on your part. Wait until he calls you or until he plans the next date. This is important because you want to find out how he handles reality.

 

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If you want a relationship that lasts, it has to be his idea.

If you don't chase him, he will chase you.

If you resist the urge to get comfortable, he will do the work of courting you.

With a little bit of patience, sit back and let being in a relationship be his idea.

 

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men's secrets in A Life of Love.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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