Okay, gentlemen, in order to answer this question, you first need to know if the woman you are in a relationship with, whether it is a serious relationship, a friends-with-benefits arrangement, or a booty call, likes oral sex.
Some women do not like oral sex at all, for whatever reason. If this is the case, try to find out why. She could have gone through something traumatic or been taught that it is just plain wrong, had a bad experience with it, never had it done, or had it done badly.
Communication is the key to everything. Most women love having you go down on them just as much as you love them going down on you. Oral sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it is important. A lot of women feel as if there is something wrong with them if the guy they are having a sexual relationship with is not willing to go down on them, and it really can mess with their self-esteem. They will start to wonder if you don’t like the way they smell, taste or look down there, and they will think that you are just in it for your own satisfaction and don’t care if you please them or not. The thing about oral sex is that it is very intimate, even more so than penetration. It can make her feel a bit vulnerable but can also open her eyes and make her feel sexual desires she may never knew she had. Oral sex makes her feel sexy and wanted. I have never met a man who would go downtown and put his tongue in just any girl he meets, so there is a desire there that a woman can feel when her man pleasures her orally.
I understand that some of you men can be shy and worried about whether you are performing the way she is expecting. Here is a little secret: All women are hoping it is going to feel amazing but honestly aren’t expecting much. So make sure you are gentle and you pay close attention to her body language. Do not freak out if she squeezes your head with her thighs. That is actually a good sign. If you are not sure what to do, tell her you want her to tell you what she wants and how she wants it, because you want to please her. But try some basic moves before you ask her, like a little bit of foreplay, such as kissing down her body, caressing her curves and paying attention to her whole body, not just her love button.
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This article was originally published at How To Get The Woman Of Your Dreams. Reprinted with permission from the author.