The dating world is hard enough, but dating a lady that is conservative can be even harder. Conservative women are generally not comfortable with themselves sexually and feel as though certain sexual acts are dirty or only for women that are loose. Another aspect of conservative women is their upbringing. Women with a conservative background were often taught by their parents that only certain girls do things such as blow jobs or have wild sex. These women are taught that good men like good girls, not whores. Unfortunately for them, that is not the truth, because having a great sex life in a relationship is very important.
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Figuring out what will help your conservative lady get freakier in bed might seem like a task that will take forever or be almost impossible. The key is finding her special spot (or spots). You also need to be sure you are giving her an orgasm. In some cases, you might be with a lady that is so conservative that just having intercourse is a dull, five-minute-long affair. There are a few different ways you can approach this difficult situation.
1. Talk to your partner about how important sex is to you. It isn’t “using” your conservative lady; it is just nice to please her. Be sure you emphasize pleasing her, because you want her to enjoy herself.
2. Suggest trying something new in the bedroom, such as orally pleasing her and going no farther. Try to make those five minutes mind-blowing for her. It is a bit of reverse psychology, because the better you orally stimulate her, and the more often you suggest it, the more likely she is to actually ask you for a li’l “something.”
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3. Conservative women sometimes have a hard time relaxing. They feel as though they need to be on guard all the time and are not open to anything new or different. This is the ideal time to plan a romantic night with cocktails or wine. Have a nice relaxing time with her and let her have a few glasses of wine. Not only has she chilled out a bit, but you can start a sexual conversation with her. You might learn about things she is concerned with or how she feels about sex.
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