4 Tips You Need If He Didn't Invite You to Thanksgiving Dinner

Love, Family

Don't start running around like a turkey with its head cut off.

You two have been together for a while now, and you've made your way through a good chunk of the relationship "checklist." Sleepovers, co-hosted parties and plus one invitations are just a few things you've ticked off.

So why, after multiple hints about wanting to meet his family and the cute holiday outfit you just bought, would he not invite you to celebrate Thanksgiving at home with him? There are multiple reasons, and you'd only be able to find out what they are from him.

In the meantime, don't start running around like a turkey with its head cut off. Instead, take a deep breath and check out these four ideas on what you can do.

1. Think about why it's a good thing.

Because he didn't invite you, you get to see your parents, siblings and whoever else you haven't seen in forever. You get to indulge in the pumpkin pie Grandma makes for you. You get to wear pants with an elastic band to dinner and yell at the football game on TV because you don't have to look cute for your family—they've seen you at your worst. Plus, you don't have to worry about saying anything embarrassing at the Thanksgiving table.

2. Invite him to your Thanksgiving dinner.

One way to bring up the holiday is by inviting him to your own celebration. This will show you feel close enough and comfortable enough for him to meet your relatives. Your cousins would be as thrilled to meet him as his would be to meet them, and this sets your relationship tone to include that family functions are OK to attend together.

3. Talk to him about it.

Boys do not respond well to hints because they don't know they're hints—only you do. It will do you no good to pace back and forth, wondering if he's going to actually ask you to come along. If you're upfront and open when asking why he hasn't invited you to join his family to indulge in some turkey and stuffing, he'll give you an answer.

4. Wait until the other holidays.

If you don't spend Thanksgiving with him, you have some more claim to see him when Hanukkah, Christmas and New Year's Eve roll around. You'll also have been together for a little longer. You two will have more experiences together, and he might now feel ready to have you meet the fam, even if they are a little bit crazier than you would have expected.

Are you spending Thanksgiving with your boyfriend? If so, what tips do you have for girls who aren't? 


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