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Dr. Dorree Lynn Denounces “Sex Drive Magic”

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Dr. Dorree Lynn claims author Mark Wallace misquoted her and others in his book "Sex Drive Magic"

Dr. Dorree Lynn Denounces Claims Made in Mark Wallace’s book “Sex Drive Magic”

In early September 2011 I received an email from Dr. Patti Britton regarding my name, image, and credibility being used to support and market Mark Wallace’s book “Sex Drive Magic” and associated websites. Yes, I was interviewed by Mr. Wallace earlier this year but I regret to report that I have been misquoted and misrepresented in his book.

Upon learning of this situation, I requested Mr. Wallace remove me from his websites and from his book immediately. To my knowledge, so have several, if not all, of the other experts that Mr. Wallace interviewed and included in his book.

While situations like these are sometimes unavoidable, they, like many awkward and unavoidable situations in life, provide us with an opportunity to either learn and/or teach ourselves and others. Hopefully Mr. Wallace has learned a lesson in referencing direct quotes from other people. I have learned a lesson on how to handle situations like this, and we’re all about to learn the important things to know about sex toys, factors killing your sex drive, medications to avoid, and libido enhancing foods.

Allow me to set the record straight on these topics that were covered in Mr. Wallace’s book, just in case there’s any confusion. Text from “Sex Drive Magic” will be identified as SDM and the transcript of my interview with Mr. Wallace will be defined by my initials DL. I shall mark my responses in italics. NOTE: The text from the transcript has not been confirmed by my staff, as all we received was the text copy (not the audio). Punctuation has been added, but nothing else has been changed from the transcript. That being said, please excuse any poor grammar, as the text is of a conversation, in which I expect my tone and message fluctuated in the way that happens when you’re trying to explain something verbally.

 

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SDM: Dr. Dorree Lynn is a psychologist, sexologist, life coach and best selling author of three books on sexual health and relationships. She is a highly sought after speaker and media expert that has been featured in countless magazines such as Men’s Health, Time, News Week, USA Today and many more!

She was thoughtful enough to provide us with her expert insight as to how YOU and anyone else can raise libido and strengthen their relationship all at once using natural, safe methods that have been tested and proven to work.

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Thank you for the kind introduction, but I never claimed that any method was safe for everyone, nor did I claim that any method had been tested and proven to work. And I certainly did not claim that ALL of them were safe and tested and proven to work. Also, my three books are on psychotherapy, caregiving, and sex for grownups. They are not all about sex and relationships.

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SDM: Important Information on Sex Toys: As men and women get older, it’s natural that our bodies will begin to give out on us. Your sex drive is no different from the other functions in your body. So let’s think about this for a minute. What happens when an elderly person has lost the ability to walk?

Give up? They get an “Aid” so to speak such as a walker, cane, scooter, or even a wheelchair to help them out correct? Why not treat your sex drive the exact same way? I strongly recommend (*in the book, the sentence ended at “recommend”)

DL: (on talking about how sex doesn’t have to stop when you get older) Sex is your birthright. And if you pay attention to it, it goes on forever. And let’s start breaking the myth that it ends with menopause and you need a little blue pill, which doesn’t work half the time anyway. And I will tell you why.

Sexuality, especially in the US, is just simply hormone driven. You know, your brains are all in your penis or your vagina and you don’t think about it.

And then of course when you hit 50 or older and people kind of put you out on an ice floe because they think it no longer exists, the truth is that it’s the over-50 population in the US that is becoming, the over-50 is the largest purchasers of products.

We use eyeglasses. We use hearing aids. We use walkers. We get ill. We use all of these aids. Why not use sexual aids as well?

In the copy of the e-book that Mr. Wallace sent me, the advice I had given on sexual aids had not been completed, it simply ended at recommend, and was highlighted in red as if to suggest it was never finished and later forgotten about. I believe my quote from the transcript accurately addresses the issue nicely.

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SDM: 3 Factors that are KILLING your Sex Drive!: Aside from the usual “Stress” that can be killing your sex drive as well as your sex life, there’s also three other main sex drive killers that most people are being negatively effected by daily and don’t even know it. They are as follows: not enough exercise, not enough sleep, too much alcohol.

You absolutely need an adequate amount of sleep and exercise daily in order to be healthy overall as well as within your sexual functions. Contrary to popular belief, alcohol is not the key to having great sex either while you’re under the influence or after. Alcohol has the ability to weaken your sex drive over time.

DL: The simplest answer with lack of libido/sex drive is when you have no interest. Period…There is always a reason. People are not born with a lack of sex drive. The brain is the biggest sex organ. So if they’ve had an emotional or psychological trauma or it could be a religious inhibition, they don’t have an obvious sex drive.

And I want to be very careful about what I say here, because people who speak anti-sex, and you and I

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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