I want us to forget about all our dating "issues" for one moment today. I want us to forget about the man who broke your heart two years ago, or the guy who took you on the most romantic date ever and then never called you again.I want us to forget about all the pressure, worry and frustration we normally feel about dating, and focus on one simple thing — how amazing it is to fall in love or at least develop strong feelings for someone. Think about it for one moment.
One moment you can be sitting in a café or park minding your own business, and suddenly someone will walk into your life, and change the way you see the world forever. When you think about it in its purest form, as human beings we're extremely lucky to have this ability and inbuilt need to connect with other human beings. Aside from how special and magical love can be, it can actually be pretty funny too. Just think of some of the crazy things we do when we’re starting to fall for someone!
Here's a list of my favorite 10 signs of falling in love/lust!
- You Completely Lose The Ability To Communicate: I've seen doctors, lawyers, and other top professionals lose total control of their vocal chords when faced with someone of the opposite sex they found attractive. These people communicate for a living for goodness sake. Yet, put an attractive man or woman in front of them and they crumble. If you find yourself suddenly struck dumb, facing irrational mind blanks, or making small talk about the color of a guy's shoes, chances are you're attracted to him.
- Your Appetite Shrinks To That Of A Baby Mouse: Well, only in the presence of that "special" person. You could be starving and ready to eat a horse, but when you hit that classy restaurant you're desperately scouring the menu for the smallest possible dish you can order. You know you have to order something or the guy will think you have some kind of eating disorder, but whatever it is better be small and easy to swallow. Things like spaghetti Bolognese are definitely off the menu for you. Far too much can go wrong with a Bolognese. You could spill it down your top, or even worse, you could end up with it around your mouth. So you order the smallest thing on the menu, and then when it shows up you start to eat like a baby bird. You barely open your mouth wide enough to get a fork into it, and then you chew like some kind of rodent trying to avoid being spotted by a predator. Catch yourself eating like this, and you're starting to get feelings for someone.
- You Check Your Phone Every 10 Seconds: I see people do this all the time, and it's so obvious what's going on. Every minute or two they take out their mobile phone and look hopefully at the screen. What makes me laugh is these people probably even have their phone on ring or vibrate. If someone sends you a text, it will ring or vibrate. You'll hear it! But still you keep grabbing for your phone every minute just in case a message came in and you suffered from temporary deafness.
- You Save All Their Text Messages (Especially The Nice Ones!): Oh my gosh! The guy sent you a message saying, "I had a great time. You're so cute, it's crazy." That message is going straight into the saved folder for safekeeping along with the other 200 messages you have from him. In fact, I want you to look at your phone right now. How many saved messages do you have on your phone from someone you like? It's great having all these saved text messages too. That way if the person doesn't text you back when they're supposed to you can just read all their nice old messages and feel all fuzzy.
- You Start Watching Rom-Coms: I swear there are people out there who only ever see a Jennifer Anniston or Ben Stiller movie when they're falling for someone. There's nothing like a great romantic comedy when you're starting to develop feelings for someone to stoke those little flames of passion. Especially when the two main characters start to realize they're falling in love. We all secretly imagine it's ourselves and our crush in the lead roles, and that one-day soon it's going to happen in real life.
- You Start Noticing Love Songs On The Radio: Not only do you start noticing love songs on the radio, but you get a little jolt of glee when you hear them, and even let out the occasional "Ahhh." If things are starting to get really heavy for you, you might even sub-consciously select your own "special song" that you associate with the guy or girl you're falling for. You might even catch yourself singing along to these songs. Just make sure your crush doesn't catch you.
- You Start Daydreaming: Hey, I'm talking to you! If you're starting to feel strongly for someone, you'll start watching little mental movies about them during the day. There you'll be, sitting in your office, and suddenly you'll transport yourself to some romantic location. Your date is there looking amazing. You look hot, and he knows it. He holds your hand, and whispers in your ear how much you mean to him. Your heart starts to race as he goes in for the kiss — and it's right about then your office fire alarm goes off and you have to evacuate the building.
- You Start Going To The Gym: Even if you’ve never cared about your weight before, when you start to fall for someone, something will compel you to start training. You have no idea why, but now instead of relaxing on the couch with a glass of red, and Sex In The City re-runs, you're now found pounding the treadmill with "Eye of the Tiger" blasting your eardrums out.
- You Start Posting Dr. Seuss Quotes: Suddenly your Facebook timeline is full of loving quotes. Dr. Seuss is a favorite of those newly in love. "You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep, because finally reality is better than your dreams" is one you'll always see all over social media. All these love quotes suddenly have meaning to you, and you can't help but tell the world how warm and fuzzy you feel. Suddenly the person who used to scoff at anything "lovey dovey" becomes Mr./Mrs. Cliché.
- You Feel Good: Love, attraction, infatuation — they all cause us to feel the effects of pleasure hormones in our system. When you hug someone you have a release of oxytocin in your brain, which makes you feel happy. Get that hug from someone you're falling for, and that feeling is multiplied. I know some of this has been tongue in cheek, but my point really is that love and attraction is an amazing, wonderful experience we get to share with each other as human beings. Sure, sometimes love can hurt when things don't go right, but don't let that take away from the magic.
Don't let one or two bad experiences change the fact that falling in love, however it turns out in the end, feels good. Stop stressing, and start enjoying the wonderful natural high we've been gifted with. But please, stop eating like a baby bird. It really isn't attractive.
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