Oral Sex – To Swallow Or Not


Oral Sex – To Swallow Or Not
Emission Control: What to do, what to do?

Question: I've been married for twenty years and been together twenty-three. My husband and I are just in our early 40's, so we got married when we were still pretty young and "adventurous" and have continued with a great sex life. During our entire relationship I have always been a "catch & spit" kind of girl. Over the years my husband has mentioned swallowing always in a joking manner and always adding it didn't matter to him either way. I have just, within the last year, tried swallowing a couple times but...can't get with it!! Does it really matter to most men? And if so, why? …Jessica

Answer: “To spit or not to spit, that is the question”…and a good one, at that. Many women have been faced with the dilemma of not knowing what to “do” with a mouthful of goo. And to be fair, there is no one “right” answer. I will, however, try to elaborate a bit on the subject and explore why this issue regularly rears its ugly head (no pun intended) in male/female relationships.  (for more on this subject, check out: Why Do Guys Love Blowjobs)


First it must be said that while oral sex is quite common a practice in society today, there are still people, both women and men, who adhere to a diet that does not include the “fruit of our loins.” In fact, it appears that women in general fall into four categories: 1) Those who don’t engage in oral sex; 2) Those who do, but remove “Mr. Happy” before he reaches the pinnacle of his enthusiasm; 3) Those who “go the distance,” but expel their partner’s deposit before it can accrue any interest; and 4) Those who ingest their special someone’s love liquid. And which category a woman falls into can often change from time to time and partner to partner. And frankly, if you fall into any of the latter three categories, you’ll probably never hear us complain, because we’re just pleased as punch to be getting a little “face time.”

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Besides being a relationship coach and author of the controversial book, "Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think," David M. Matthews is an Emmy-winning TV Writer/Producer who’s worked on some of television’s favorite shows.

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