Question: Most of my life I have wondered why men have this pre-occupation with the almighty blow job. It can be a subject of great contention for some women. My husband has told me on numerous occasions that this is a subject that men discuss and one of his fellow associates stated one day, "Women would rule the world; if they would just give their husbands the blow job that they want." Why is this?
What is the fascination, the pre-occupation … the importance of it? Even the women's magazines like 'Cosmo' and 'Glamour' are trying to convince us women that this is something that we should be doing on a regular basis. If all you want to do is see naked and press the flesh … why is this such an important thing also? Do men really talk about this with each other?
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I know that my younger counterparts do not have as many hang-ups about this act, but as a woman who was born in the late 1950s, I and others of time period were trained by our mothers to never consider this, this act was one that prostitutes and bad girls did. So, what do we do now that it is common practice?
Answer: You ask a very good question, so let me respond to it in a direct and succinct manner. Men are wild about getting their whistles blown. There are quite a few reasons for this. Here are just a few:
1. It feels really good. There's something about being enveloped by the warm wetness of an insistent mouth that really gets our blood boiling. "But don't you get the same sensation being nestled inside a moist vagina?" Yes … if your vagina has a tongue. You see, oral sex is more of an ensemble piece than is vaginal sex. A good blow job requires the mutual cooperation of lips, tongue, saliva, hand, and on very rare occasions, a receptive gullet. Tough for your nether regions to compete with such a well-oiled oral team.
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2. Oral sex is virtually stress-free for us. Unlike regular sex where we have to be concerned about being hard enough, big enough, and long-lasting enough, "lingual love" carries with it no such angst-inducing pressures. We are literally free to relax and enjoy ourselves, knowing that our orgasm will arrive at the appropriate time, no matter how soon that is. Men Are Simple
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