Tantric sexuality is the method of infusing energy into every sensual interaction to connect your hearts, spirits and bodies to an energy greater than yourselves--thus it is a deeply spiritual and highly erotic way of sharing love with another person.
Thus, this sensual style of lovemaking is not about sexual gymnastics and long-enduring orgasmic experiences, but instead is about creating the greatest level of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy with someone that you love and adore profoundly.
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Thus, tantric love making is not about experimenting with sexuality casually--it is for connecting at the deepest levels with someone that you wish to know at the most intimate level.
These three ways can help you integrate a tantric style into your repetoire of love making:
Open Heart Energies to Create Higher Levels of Eroticism
The most important aspect of tantric experiences is the conscious act of opening the heart center. This is why tantric love making should be performed with a partner with whom you have developed deep love, commitment and trust --for your open heart has to be entrusted to someone that will care-take it well, and vice versa.
Tantric openings of the heart include these methods that come form the qi gong system of self massage.
(1) Caressing the center of chest on each other with a warming oil such as my lover's blend, designed to resonate with the heart. Go slowly, tracing the center of the chest with just fingertips while gazing into each other's eyes. Slowly widen the circle moving outward to the edges of the chest. Breathe deeply. Allow the emotions that are housed in the heart center to gently come to the surface. Trust and relax. Notice what comes up for both of you. Observe and feel.
Qi gong movements such as "Open Heart Qi" found in this free webinar can also prepare the energy for opening the heart when you are with a love partner.
(2) Next, allow your hands to connect with your partner's hands, palm to palm. Feel the energy of the palms. Once you feel a flow between your palms and your partner's palms, then gently kiss each other while keeping your palms connected. Breathe deeply as you kiss. Linger in the kiss and the touching of the palms, then allow yourselves to break from the kiss and caress the heart center again. What do you notice now about the heart center now?
If you take time to open the heart center as a prelude to lovemaking, you will find a greater level of sexual pleasure because when the heart center is open, your ability to perceive the subtle nuances of erotic stimulation increases ten-fold.
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Also, this connectivity and level of oneness, allows you to feel and experience your partner's pleasure as well as your own--this is the true essence of oneness and tantric love-making--that shared experience.
If you are not experiencing that level of oneness, then one has to consider the factors that may be contributing to a more limited experience of each other, such as lifestyle differences, energetic differences (perhaps one partner is low energy and the other is high energy), depth of emotional commitment and love, and spiritual compatibility.