You've been dating for months now. You've become great friends; you care deeply for one another; you're sexually exclusive, mutually in love and nearly inseparable. It just seems like the natural next step is to ask him to move in with you.
He may already be thinking about how nice it would be to just live at your place. Alternatively, the proposition might send him running for the hills. So, it pays to be careful. Like a simple golf shot, you just have to tee it up first and then take a swing.
1. Have him leave some things there. He's there a few nights a week anyway, so he needs a toothbrush and a towel in the morning. Have him bring one over. Or, better yet, leave a nice new toothbrush just like he has at home next to yours in the holder with a little red bow around it. He'll see it in the morning and appreciate the gesture.
Chances are good his bath towels are thread bare and dingy, so put out a nice plush one right next to yours on the towel rack so he doesn't feel like a guest. Have him bring his mouthwash, deodorant and razors over, too, and give him a drawer in the vanity or some shelf space in the medicine cabinet.
If he comes there after work, have him leave his dress shirt and give him one of your oversized tee-shirts to wear home. Then, the following week, when he says he has to go home because he works the next day, you can tell him there is a clean and pressed shirt in the closet for him. No need to go.
2. Give him a key. There will be some occasion when you need him to run over to your place when you're not there, so find a reason and give him a key. Maybe you need him to feed the cat or water the plants when you're out of town, or perhaps you just want him to swing by and pick up your comfortable shoes so he can get you from work and go right to dinner at your mom's house.
Next time he rings the bell when he comes to get you, just holler for him to let himself in. Let him get used to using the key. Keep reading ...
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