I've talked before about how some men really dislike sex toys. They worry that a dildo or vibrator will replace them, whether due to sheer size or its ability to get a woman off.
The interesting thing is that many women seem to be just as intimidated by sex toys.
They wonder if they'll get addicted. They wonder if their partners will get upset. They wonder if they'll ever be able to get off without it once they’ve tried it.
If I could get everyone to believe just ONE thing about sex toys, it is that they are simply an appetizer.
Sure, they stimulate different parts of the body and are capable of stimulation to the point of climax. But when you think about it, they really serve one purpose: to get us warmed up and ready for the main event.
It's just like when you’re out to eat and you order an appetizer You could choose to eat only that, but later you’re going to be hungry for something more substantial. Toys only whet your appetite, and they make you crave REAL food.
Toys make you crave REAL sex.
You'll NEVER convince me that a toy can REPLACE a warm, living, breathing, good-smelling, lick-you-all-over partner.
This is where it gets tricky.
Too many people (men and women alike) are afraid of bringing a toy into the bedroom. And sadly, they're really missing out on some fun. SMART men know that sex toys they only make their jobs easier (sex toys do all the heavy lifting for them, after all!).
If it takes your woman a long time to get worked up to the point of orgasm, adding in a toy can shorten that time significantly and ensure both of you are having fun. You’ll feel like a true stud when you’ve got your girl quivering like a Jell-O mold, too satisfied to even move.
And it doesn't take a whole lot of effort! Use a small vibe on her nipples, on her neck and her back. Glide it slowly over the skin of her lower belly, and tease her vaginal lips with it, never quite giving her the satisfaction of penetration.
The point is to get her revved up, to get blood flowing to her pelvic floor and get her juices flowing. When this happens, you've hit the jackpot. She'll suddenly be amazingly sensitive and responsive to every touch. And when she's well-lubricated, she'll be dying for you to touch her clitoris.
If you enjoy giving your partner an orgasm through oral sex, a toy makes a great addition to your bag of tricks. Your fingers and tongue in combination with a gentle vibrator will have her practically climbing the walls with pleasure, and just think about how much less work your tongue and fingers will have to do to get her there!
To this day, I still love coaching men on my magical method that turns women into super lusty vixens just dying for sex: Give her an orgasm before penetrating her, using your fingers, mouth or any toys you prefer. Then take her for a ride, and make sure after sex you give her another orgasm.
Something about being with a man who knows how to pleasure her will make most women ravenous and inspire them to initiate sex more often.
You know what I think, though. What are your thoughts? Love toys? Hate toys? Discover a magic combination that works? Tell me in the comments below!
More about me: I am the owner of an online romance store www.BlissConnection.com and have been selling sex toys and lingerie for the last ten years. I just opened a brand new plus size lingerie store in San Jose called Curvy Girl Lingerie. We focus on plus size lingerie and helping women to get in touch with all of the pleasure your body is capable of!
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