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The Secrets of Erotic Influence with Women

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The Secrets of Erotic Influence with Women
Many women are "closet submissives." Do you have what it takes to erotically dominate these women?

At the risk of "tooting my own horn," I have had many women refer to me as "The Black Christian Grey" as well as "The King of Verbal Seduction" (a nickname frequently used on my adult-themed podcast program, The Erotic Conversationalist).  To this day, I have a number of e-mail messages and messages on the popular social networking site, Facebook, from women who refer to me as "Sir," "Daddy," or "Mr. Currie" instead of simply "Alan."  I have a number of audiotapes of me erotically dominating women verbally that these women have actually asked me to share with other women.

Is this a 'talent' that only I possess?  Of course not.  Any man with some degree of "Alpha Male" traits can learn how to identify, seduce, and train a woman who is what I refer to as a "closet submissive."  Closet submissive?

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The term "being in the closet" is usually attributed to a gay male or lesbian female, but there are a lot of men and women who are "in the closet" regarding their erotically submissive side.  What many in society may be surprised to learn is that many men and women actually pay money to be erotically dominated.

For men, this is where a woman who is a "dominatrix" comes into play.  Years ago, when I lived in Los Angeles, there was an article about a woman who was earning $125,000+ per year as a top-notch dominatrix.  She said that roughly 85% of her regular and semi-regular clients were men and approximately 15% were women.  At that time, she was charging anywhere from $150 for a one hour session to as much as $400 for a three hour session.

I have actually had my own female clients who have paid me a small sum of money to teach them and train them how to be less 'prudish' with their romantic and sexual partners, and instead become more open-minded, free-spirited, and erotically submissive.

In the fetish world of BDSM, and I would even say in society as a whole, there are generally three types of male and female sex partners:

  1. A "Top" or "Dom":  This is a sex partner who is erotically dominant with their designated partners 99.99% of the time.
  2. A "Bottom" or "Sub":  This is a sex partner who is erotically submissive with their selected sex partners 99.99% of the time.
  3. A "Switch":  This is a sex partner who is erotically submissive with their partners some of the time, and other times, they take on the role of the erotically dominant partner.

Over half of the reason why the Fifty Shades of Grey erotic trilogy was so popular with women was because the male protagonist was very erotically dominant.

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I am not going to give away all of my secrets of training a closet submissive, but I will offer a handful of tips for those single heterosexual men looking to enhance their sex lives and their ability to connect with an "undercover sub":

1)  Ask a woman to repeat something that you want to hear.

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