Very few things are as confusing as the link between what we think is beautiful, our self-image and our sexuality. What each of us perceives as beautiful or sexy is as varied as what you might eat for dinner. The biggest myth about finding love is that there is some perfect set of rules that leads to success. And this is just not true. No one is perfect. Pretty people and plain people alike struggle to find love and no one is immune to fears about ending up alone.
Unfortunately, many people they struggle with this and mistakenly believe that a lack of love comes from their appearance--that there is something on the outside that is missing. If they can only "fix" that mystery thing, then love will flock their way.
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In today's intensive, we're looking at beauty myths that prevent women from finding love. Take a look and see if any of these mistaken beliefs are at the core of what's keeping you from finding the love of your life.
The top beauty myths that hold us back:
Myth #1: Men only care about women's looks.
It's a greatly mistaken belief that men are all looking to settle down with life-size Barbie dolls and are dissatisfied with anything less. The truth is that most men don't care as much as you might imagine. If a man has a connection with you, your body is one of the elements he's interested in; but there are many others that matter just as much if not more.
If you're struggling with this belief, practice being confident in who you are and showing it through the way you present yourself. The way you dress and how you speak about yourself can show men that you believe yourself to be an attractive woman and that confidence is infectious. According to the womenshealth.gov website, having a "positive body image is crucial to a woman's happiness and wellness." Stay focused on thinking good thoughts about your body and watch your self-esteem, confidence and overall outlook improve.
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Myth #2: To get a man, you have to be perfect.
A second myth is that women think they have to look perfect for a man (ie. be all dolled up, covered in make up, hair done, etc). Again, not true! Men love women who can show their "water and soap" face. It tells a man that the woman is confident and is not afraid to show who she really is. This is very important when building a relationship as it shows authenticity and openness, which fosters trust and comfort around the opposite sex.
Myth #3: Men only want skinny women.
A third myth is that women have to be skinny for men to like them. According to askmen.com, men are not attracted a woman who is too skinny because she has a higher infertility rate and has less of the attributes that men love, like the breasts and the bum. Men love curves.