Why It's So Hard To Meet Someone, Per Astrology
Sometimes, it's something you can control. Sometimes, it's not.
pexels I hate to sound like I’m not “hip” with technology – although, that sentence right there might do the trick itself – but it’s so hard to meet people organically these days when we’re all so dependent on technology.
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I’m not saying you can’t meet someone IRL with the help of your smartphone, but technology certainly puts real relationships on hold. We’re all so busy, so caught up in our professional and personal lives, our hobbies, and trying to take time for ourselves that even scheduling time to hang out with friends can feel like a headache.
How am I supposed to have enough energy to go out with friends after work kicked my butt all week let alone go out on a date? I mean, at least my friends understand if I seem tired or not very enthused to go out, but trying not to make excuses when I first start dating someone new doesn’t help me make a good first impression.
But just because life itself can make it hard for you to meet someone, it’s not the only reason you’re having trouble. I hate to play the blame game, but if you look to your zodiac sign, you might learn a thing or two about why it’s so hard for you specifically to meet someone.
Maybe it really is just as simple as having zero time for yourself or your friends in your schedule, let alone time for dating, or maybe you’re making excuses because meeting someone new is intimidating. Dating in the modern world is not the same as it used to be.
Rather than wanting to get to know someone, you probably find yourself judging them immediately and using those superficial judgments to decide if they’re worth your time. Think about apps like Tinder or Bumble.
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We’re so used to immediately swiping away anyone who doesn’t fit that “like at first sight” criteria. So, when it comes to IRL dating (and meeting), we find ourselves writing off one bad date as a total bust, instead of getting to know the person a little better.
This doesn’t work with everyone, of course. Don’t force yourself to be with someone if you know it isn’t going to work, but you get what I mean. One of the reasons it’s so hard to meet someone is simply because we don’t have the patience to meet someone.
We might blame it on the wrong chemistry or even tell ourselves that we’re too busy to make something work, but maybe we’re doing a little more self-sabotaging than we like to admit, too. We all have our reasons for why new relationships make us nervous, but even if you’re not totally ready to jump into something new just yet, you can at least know what’s holding you back.
Per astrology, here is why it’s so hard to meet someone, based on your horoscope sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
You don't necessarily have a problem meeting people, Aries, but you do have a problem keeping them around. You're way too specific with what you're looking for in a partner that every time you have a chance to meet someone new, you reject them. You place judgment way too early on people you haven't even met yet because you automatically assume they won't live up to your standards.
You know exactly what you want in a relationship – which is great – because there's no guessing or making mistakes. But just because you know what you want doesn't mean other people know. You need to give them some time to grow with you instead of writing everyone off.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
You've always been a very traditional zodiac sign, Taurus. You like having a routine and a method to everything you do, including relationships. You believe that there is a certain way things need to be in order for a relationship to last. In reality, everyone moves at their own pace in life, and there's no right or wrong way to establish a relationship.
The reason it's so hard for you to meet someone is because you're trying to live by society's rules. You feel like you need to be dating for so long before moving in and that serious conversations about the future can only happen once you've made things official. Guess what? You can live life however you want, Taurus.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
One thing everyone can agree on is that you are one of the best friends a person can have, Gemini. Not many other zodiac signs are willing to go to the lengths you would for the people you care about. That is why you would make such a good partner... if you could ever figure out what you wanted. The reason it's so hard to meet someone is because you're not honest with yourself or others about what you want.
You might know that you're not ready for or comfortable with a serious relationship, but when you care about someone and want to give a new relationship a fair shot, you end up trying to make the other person happy even if it means sacrificing what you really want.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
You're very sure of what you want in a relationship, Cancer. You have a pretty good idea of the things that are most important to you in a partner, and you've probably thought a lot about your future by now. That said, your confidence in what you're looking for in a relationship can make you seem intimidating to some people.
The reason you're having such a hard time meeting someone is because you can't find someone who wants the same things as you – or, at least, someone who is as confident as you are about their future. You feel like you have bad luck finding love, and it brings you down.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
One thing you always try to do, Leo, is keep a good balance between your work life and your personal life. You are known for working hard, but you also like to play hard. That said, you have a hard time meeting someone – no matter how hard you try to keep that balance – because like just keeps you way too busy for a real relationship.
You might have time for a few blind dates or casual hook-ups, but when it comes to actually meeting someone – and not just for something temporary – you find that it's a lot harder than it looks to have a relationship AND keep up in your career.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You have a very long to-do list of things you're looking for in a partner, Virgo. You like to think that it's not impossible to find what you're looking for, but you also tend to forget that people can't be exactly what you're looking for all the time. Just because you know exactly what you want doesn't mean you're going to find someone who can embody all of that and more.
The reason it's so hard for you to meet someone is because you're way too picky. Sure, there are things you should never waver on – like certain values – but you can't keep turning people down just for not being tall enough or having a loud laugh.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
One of the things you've always dreamt about for your future is a relationship that is full of affection and romance. You dream about finding that perfect relationship all the time, and you're willing to meet as many people as possible to find it. That said, you have a hard time meeting people because what you want takes time. You're trying to rush something that isn't going to come to you in a day or a week.
Don't feel like you're scaring people away by being someone who's looking for something serious right away. Just know that if you do find someone you want to spend time with that it takes time to develop a relationship that is exactly what you want.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
You are very cautious with who you choose to let into your life, Scorpio. For you, relationships are meant to last forever, so you don't want to start something with someone if you know it isn't going to last. So, naturally, you guard yourself and your heart very well from most people. The reason it's so hard for you to meet someone is because you don't want to get hurt (again).
Whether it was disappointment in a friend not keeping a promise, or it was a serious heartbreak, it scares you to open up to someone new. You might not even know you're doing it, but there's part of yourself that's sabotaging your ability to meet someone because you're scared.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
You like living unattached to people, Sagittarius. Serious relationships aren't really your thing, but you do enjoy meeting new people all the same, If you vibe with them, you might give a relationship a chance, but most of the time, you prefer to be a lone wolf. That's the main reason it's so hard for you to meet people. You're not ready to get serious with anyone, so you turn every relationship down.
Rather than see each potential relationship as something that will immediately turn into someone serious or long-term, you should be thinking of it as a way to bring new people into your life. Even if you're not dating them, you can always learn something important from new people.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
You work very hard for the life you have, Capricorn. Everything you have – and are – is the result of you putting your nose to the grindstone every day and working towards something important. Needless to say, you are no stranger to hard work and a lot of long nights. But just because you deserve a pat on the back for being so driven, you should also know that you're sabotaging your chance of being in a relationship.
The reason it's so hard to meet someone is because you let yourself be too busy. Instead of reminding yourself to take a break and have some fun, you tell yourself that the work isn't going to get done if you take a break. All this does, though, is isolate you from potential relationships.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
You're a very on-the-go zodiac sign, Aquarius, which is why you prefer to keep in contact with people over text and social media than in real life. Foe you, it's just so much easier to be able to check things off of your to-do list while also having a conversation with your friend in a series of pictures on Snapchat.
The reason it's so hard for you to meet someone is because you're scared of something real. It's a lot easier for you to have a "relationship" with someone digitally because you can ghost them if things get too serious or you get bored. You're really just making excuses for yourself to be alone because real-life relationships require a lot more work than digital flirting.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
You can be hot and cold when it comes to relationships, Pisces. On one hand, you want to be in a "sweep me off my feet" kind of relationship that's full of romance and heart eyes emojis. On the other hand, serious relationships can be daunting and intimidating to you. Sometimes, you start a new relationship only to back out later because your feelings have changed. The reason it's hard for you to meet someone is because you can be shy and hesitant to put yourself out there.
You're worried that your feelings for someone will fade, and you'll have to end things before they really get started. Or that you'll meet someone you're not really into at first, but then you'll realize that you really do want to be with them when it's too late. All you're doing is making it more complicated than it has to be.
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Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.