The Men Of Reddit Confess How They Really Feel After Going Through A BAD Breakup

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10 Guys On Reddit AskMen Explain How Men Feel After A Bad Breakup
Heartbreak

They did NOT hold anything back.

Breakups are never easy, and while some do take them better than others, there are those people who just can't deal.

Everyone obviously handles breakups differently, and you have to do whatever feels most natural for you in the moment.

If you need to cry, let it out.

If you get angry, get angry (just safely and not directed at anyone, of course).

Whatever you may be feeling, the important thing is to let those emotions out, because while you keep them bottled up inside you're keeping yourself from being able to truly move on.

IMHO, guys seem to make that mistake even more often than women do.

They try to act all tough and manly, like they don't care at all when, in reality, they do feel sincere sadness about their loss.

Maybe if they could be more honest with themselves and their friends about what they are going through, they could potentially make the breakup process a whole lot smoother for themselves.

But ... what do guys typically feel right after a breakup?

Is there a common progression of emotions most men go through?

If we found out and clued them in, would that make it easier for them to speak up and say, "Yeah, me too!"? 

One community member who turned to the crew over on Reddit AskMen for more insight in this area asked the following question:

"I've heard that women usually get hit with it instantly and go through the worst part in the beginning and eventually get over it slowly and gradually, whereas men feel numb at first and don't get to the worst part until later on. Is there any merit to that?"

Here are our favorite responses from just 10 of the honest men who were willing to open up about how guys feel after a break up. 

1. Jumping back into the dating pool makes it feel all too real.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"It hits me the hardest when I finally take a look at my other dating options/revive the online dating profiles and remember how bleak it is out there."

2. It feels like you lost out on a huge opportunity.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"It's like losing a job in your career path."

3. Seeing them move on quickly hurts BAD.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"When you see your girl with someone else. Especially since almost all girls I've dated/known had a new guy within a week at most. Like damn."

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4. It gets brutal when she starts haunting your dreams.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"Waking up after dreaming about her. Day ruined after that."

5. And then there's that moment when you think you're finally over her ... but you're not.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"It hit me hard at first, and then it just hits me randomly now even a couple years later."

6. Avoiding all contact is crucial for some. 

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"Nah I get hit super hard right away, it's very intense and dumbs down over time. I prefer it this way although no contact is definitely necessary to move on."

7. No one likes a surprise when it comes in the form of a broken heart. 

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"When it comes out of nowhere and up until that point you thought everything was going well. That is by far the worst because it means the other person didn't care enough to talk to you about things that were bothering them and you were falling for someone that didn't really exist in the way that they presented themselves to you."

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8. Sometimes you have to just delete all evidence of your relationship.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"I only had one serious relationship so far and it hit me hardest probably when I realized what we had was done despite being hopeful we would get back together. That moment happened when I saw her start deleting photos of us on social media. That sucked ... a lot."

9. And then your senses remind you of those little things you miss about her ...

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"When you accidentally stay up way too late at night and realize you miss her touch, how her shampoo smells, the talks, and just closeness to another human being. It comes and goes kind of like your fear of death and the only thing you can do is shove it out of your mind and force yourself to sleep."

10. Maybe the hardest part is that guys don't open up to their friends the way women do.

Comment from discussion When does a breakup hit you the hardest?.

"I think grieving process is the same but girls tend to have a better support system. Guys tend to just bottle it up and act like it's ok which takes longer to get over. Girls also have more options in terms of dating so that helps. I know this is all generalizations but it's just my opinion."

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