Why All The BEST People Are Sluts

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Once a slut, always a slut.

It’s a special kind of woman who can wear her slut status with pride, like a crown rather than a scarlet A. Far too many of us hide from our sexual promiscuity in shame, thinking we’re tarnished and no good; that we’re dirty and unsavory. We think we’re unworthy of love for opening our legs.

To put it lightly, this is totally f*cked. It’s completely ridiculous. It's as absurd as a bad reality TV star sitting in the White House right now.

I was around 14 the first time someone called me a slut. I remember it vividly. It was a warm summer afternoon, the golden hour. A boy from the neighborhood was sitting with a bunch of his friends in the park across from my house. “SLUT.” He screamed. “SLUUUUUT!”

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t hurt and that I didn’t cry. I did both of those things. At the time, I was kind of slut, I suppose. I was kissing a lot of boys and fooling around with a few. The words hurt me. I was shamed for my behavior and I felt it deeply.

I cried that day, but I continued to be slutty — sluttier even. Once sex began, all bets were off.

Being a slut has taught me a lot about myself. I’ve had a colorful, fabulous, incredibly adventurous life full of dick. It’s been wonderful and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Currently (and I’m confident, permanently), I’m in a committed relationship. I’ve been with the same man for almost 3 years. Despite being monogamous and loving everything that comes with that different but equally fulfilling adventure, I’m still a slut.

Because once you’re a slut, you’re always a slut... and that’s a good thing. Here are four reasons why you should own your sexuality and embrace being a "slut."

1. You can’t wash away your past even if you stop sleeping around.


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I stopped sleeping around. I stopped having one-night stands and spontaneous sexual rendezvous. I got myself a stable, wonderful, and dangerously sexy boyfriend. He’s the only one I’m having spontaneous sexual rendezvous with these days.

I am in love with him, but that doesn’t erase my past. Women spend far too much time trying to mold themselves into something they are not; something pure and smaller than themselves. They try to make themselves “girlfriend” material. What does "girlfriend material" even mean?

If you’re going to be with someone who truly deserves you, you should never want to wash away your past and pretend it doesn’t exist; you should wear your slutty memories on your chest like a badge of honor. They make for the most interesting stories, after all.

There is no reason to treat your sexual past like it’s something to be ashamed of; you should live your sexy life with pride.

2. You’ve still had sex with a lot of people, even if you stop having sex entirely.

“Oh, in my slutty days...” “I was such a slut back then!” Nope. Wrong. Not how it works. Thanks for playing. The definition of a slut means you’ve had a lot of sexual partners. You could up and join a convent and you’d still be a slut.

If you stop sleeping with a lot of people, your number of sexual partners does not go down, it stagnates. It does not disappear or fade over time like a scar. There is nothing wrong with having multiple sexual partners. It just means you’re probably great at sex... you sure have had enough of it.

You are still a slut. Get over it. It’s fabulous. You are fabulous.

3. The word 'slut' was meant to control us, and we’re not really into that.


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The word 'slut' was created to shame and control women. If you create a derogatory word used only to describe a woman’s sexuality and then use it to denigrate any woman who has sex, you break females down. You destroy confidence with one hurtful, stupid word.

It’s a critical element of patriarchal control. If you control a woman’s sexuality, you control the woman; you make her obedient. Any woman who doesn’t fall within societal ideas of what a woman should be and how she should engage in sex will be outcast.

It’s severely messed up, but it’s how we’ve been tethered since the invention of language. It’s 2017 and we are so over that. The sexual liberation of us women scares the hell out of men.

Where will they be if we have control over our bodies and what we do with them? On the way out, that’s where. I’m not saying we should get rid of men, I’m just saying we’ve got 99 problems and men are literally all of them.

Forget these antiquated notions of what makes a woman a “proper wife.” How about we look for proper husbands, ones who don’t slut shame and act like a bunch of assh*les? Slut is our word. And it is time for the great reclamation.

4. All the best people are sluts.

If you know any truly amazing, dynamic, worldly, kickass women, odds are she’s a slut. All the best people are. It’s very simple. Sluts are the women who have all the fun, who drink the worm at the bottom of the tequila bottle, who have all the answers, who live life to the fullest and never apologize for being utterly glorious.

Sluts are the women you want to know. They are the women who rule at life. A woman who is empowered by her sluttiness, who isn’t ashamed of it, but stands up and declares, “I AM A SLUT” is a fearsome thing to behold. She is not screwing around.

She will not let a word created by men with the intention to control be her undoing. She doesn’t do shame or weakness. Be a slut. Sluts make better company.

 

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