How Much Of A People-Pleaser You Are, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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It's not always a good thing...

Warning: you could be a people-pleaser. When your friends need to go to the airport at 4 AM, are you the one person they know will take them or are you the only one you know who is still friends with kids they went to grade school with?

It’s not a bad thing to be a people-pleaser... unless it makes you do things you don’t really want to do or act in ways that aren’t in your best interest.


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People-pleasers want to be liked and are willing to do almost anything for the approval of others. People-pleasers are much more than nice because what they do for other people goes beyond niceness.

The problem is that when you are so busy doing things for other people, you neglect your own needs. Since a people-pleaser can’t say no, they can end up exhausted by doing for others. Many people-pleasers don’t take care of themselves because they’re too consumed by the needs of everybody else.

 

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Often, there are the fears of rejection and failure involved with people-pleasing. If you don’t do a task that someone asks you to do, they may no longer like you. If you fail to do something properly and/or you make a mistake, then again you may be judged and rejected. There’s also the chance if you do something incorrectly that you may be on the receiving end of harsh criticism which can cause anxiety and stress.


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As a people-pleaser, you may feel as if no one appreciates what you do for them and you can become passive-aggressive. If you don’t tell people how you feel, you could end up feeling resentful and angry.

The best thing you can do as a people-pleaser is to put yourself on the top of your list and make sure that you practice self-care. Speak up, let other people help you, and most importantly learn how to say no.

Here's how to tell if you're a people-pleaser, according to your zodiac sign.

 

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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You're extremely devoted to your friends and family and that it makes it difficult for you to say "no." You have an endless supply of energy but even superheroes need to take a break now and then. It doesn't matter if you're sick or just tired — if someone needs you to do something, you do it without complaint. Sure, you'll probably blow up later but you'll suck it up for a while.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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You'd much rather hurt yourself than somebody else. Instead of going by your gut feelings about what's best for you, you make decisions based on how it will affect your friends and family. You're way too considerate of other people. It's not just good manners and being polite, it's that you're intensely respectful of others.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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You can't help it but you apologize for almost everything. You know it's not always your fault; in fact, it's rarely your fault. But somewhere along the line you got into the habit of saying you're sorry. It's as if you're responsible for every negative thing that happens in the world and that's a lot of pressure to put on yourself. There are some things that you shouldn't be sorry for and you need to get out of the apology habit; it makes them less meaningful.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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You hold onto your exes and ex-BFFs. You are the one who, after a breakup, stays friends with your ex. You don't want them to think that you're a bad person and you genuinely care about them, even when they treated you like crap and were a jerk. You're hopeful that one day they'll change and start to appreciate you, but that day may never arrive.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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You appreciate the fact that you have a lot of people who admire and look up to you, so you tend to put a lot of energy towards making them feel fulfilled and happy. You rarely have me-time and as much as you adore the spotlight, you don't take advantage of it by constantly pushing your own agenda. You're a leader in every sense of the word and you put your follower's needs above your own.

 

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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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You overthink and over-analyze everything but especially your own behavior and how it affects others. You always make sure that when you do something for someone, you do it the way that they want; and when it's done, you did it the way they wanted it done. You hate to make a mistake, especially one that could have repercussions for someone else and you'll make sure that know everything about a project before it's done. 

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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You rarely weed the toxic people out of your life. You don't want to hurt their feelings and you especially don't want there to be any bad blood between you. You know your friend from high school is completely self-centered and never asks about what's going on in your life, and yet you still take her calls. You'd much rather pretend you're interested than have any conflict or confrontation happen.

 

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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It's difficult for you to let go of past situations that you knew would go badly, but you did anyway because someone asked you to do it. You get angry when people take advantage of you and don't appreciate it, but you rarely confront them about it. Usually, you just seethe in private.

 

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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You live for making other people laugh and making them feel happy. You've been accused of being weak because you care so much. You try not to let the haters get under your skin and bring you down. You want to do whatever you can to make the world a better place.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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When anyone has a problem, they come to you to fix it and you always do. If your boss needs you to finish a project by the next morning, you'll work on it all night if you must because you can't stand to disappoint anyone. Sometimes it can feel like a burden to be everyone's guardian angel but you can't help it — it's just the way you are.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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You don't have any boundaries and without them, you're vulnerable to people who'll use you. You try to see something appealing in every person which is great until you put your trust in the wrong person. You want to be liked and be open to people but you come across as gullible and fair game to emotional predators.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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You suck at being selfish and that makes people believe that they can take advantage of you. If anyone or anything needs your help, you give it willingly. To say that you'll literally do anything for the people you love isn't an exaggeration. But you need to know where to draw the line so you don't do something for the benefit of someone else and the detriment of yourself.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One

 

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