9 Men Reveal What REALLY Turns Them On When They Masturbate

Who hasn't fantasized about getting into a guy's head? We often wonder what the heck he's thinking, and for good reason: Men are complicated. Annoyingly so. 

So, we asked them what they are thinking — more specifically, what they are thinking when they masturbate? Masturbation is probably when a man is at his most primal, and depending on how men masturbate, he can indulge his deepest fantasies.

So what is it they're thinking? Some thoughts are surprising, some not so much. There are those thinking about us (we like that, of course), but they also may be thinking about something they'd never have the nerve to do with us or anyone else. Or, they are thinking about an ex. (We're not as crazy about that.) Or, the never-ex: The one they wanted and never had.

Memory lane is really a popular fantasy for men when they are masturbating, that epitome of sexual exploits they always look back upon and dream of happening again. But forbidden fruits, so to speak, is also a popular one.

Here's what men think about when masturbating:

1. The thought of having sex with someone I shouldn't.

"For me, sure there is the 'wow she's hot' factor, but what really gets me going is when there is a belief that it could be real. You see a hot girl and you know there isn't any chance in hell that you are ever going to be having sex with her — it is arousing, but only mildly. But when someone you meet expresses real interest or an old flame pops into your life again, or a girl that had a crush on you years ago recently posts that she is single again, that means that there is a chance. And that thought of having sex with that someone is a real possibility? That is the biggest turn on in the whole world."

2. Vivid imagery.

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"A scenario. It has to be about vivid imagery: I don't want to just think about a girl [giving me a blowjob], I want to see the girl so clearly it's as if she's really there. Because, in my mind, to get off, she is."

3. Making fantasy a reality.

"In real life, I'm very vanilla. In my fantasy life, I'm trying all sorts of [things] I wouldn't actually have the nerve to try, such as public exhibition, or playing a more dominant or submissive role than I'm accustomed to. The exciting part is how forbidden and different it all feels."

4. Sex memories from the past.

"I am often given crap from my male friends — that I usually only masturbate to thoughts sans accouterments or aids so to speak (i.e. porn or dirty photos, etc). Usually, to thoughts of threesomes past or one of those wild nights from a couple years ago where it was a group of girls and me. What can I say? My ego likes me to masturbate to thoughts of me being the center of attention."

5. The one that got away.

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"For all of my fantasies, it's a mix of memories I wish I could experience again, but also those unfulfilled moments. That girl I really wanted but never actually had. In my fantasies, I get her!"

6. Peeing on you.

"The really degrading stuff. I don't actually want to tie you up and pee on you. But sometimes, it really turns me on to imagine what it would actually be like."

7. Making my dreams come to life.

"There are myriad ways to go when you're lying on your back and ready to cover your belly with never-to-be-born babies. But the best is remembering a highly explicit dream — sometimes from just before I woke up and sometimes from eons ago. The otherworldly nature of dreams (it was my high school crush, only, it WASN'T my high school crush) ramps up the excitement factor. If you have the capacity to remember these dreams, it's really easy to screw your eyes shut and really feel what's happening. Barring that, the audio of people having sex is a fast and instant turn-on."

8. Imagining her with someone else.

"I dated a guy who, only when he was mad at me, would masturbate to the thought of me [with] his friends. What a whack job."

9. Having sex on an airplane.

"There's a super hot flight attendant on a red-eye. She approaches me and we get physical very quietly while everyone else is sleeping. I'm sleeping until interrupted in the back of an under crowded flight. There are ten rows empty in the back. We have sex and it's the hottest thing ever. Every time I fantasize about this I finish in about twenty seconds, flat."

*Some submissions have been edited for grammar or clarity.