Spanking isn't the only way to mix pleasure and pain.
Although Fifty Shades Darker won't be released until next year, it doesn't mean you can't continue your own exploration of the combination of pain and pleasure. When one is beginning to learn about BDSM it can be overwhelming. Where do you start? What if you're not into spanking — does that mean only vanilla sex is for you?
The exciting thing is that there are so many things that beginners can safely try when they're getting into BDSM. Labia and/or genital clamps are a good way to see if mixing pain and pleasure is for you, and it doesn't have to cost a lot to find out.
In an article for Kinkly, sex blogger Sunny Megatron writes, "People enjoy labia clamps for a number of reasons. First of all, massaging, tugging, or gently pinching the labia with genital clamps can cause the hidden portion of the clitoral complex to come alive, thus aiding in arousal and intensifying climax."
If you're interested in taking things to the next level in your sex life, here are 8 things you should know about using labia clamps.
1. Start off with household items.
Since you don't know for sure that labia clamps are for you and don't want to spend a lot of money on high-end clamps, try using wooden clothespins, chip bag clips, or binder clips. You're only as limited as your imagination. If you do use clothespins, use them only once and then throw them away; they're porous and could get exposed to moisture and bacteria.
2. Start off slow.
Sexual clamps work by restricting the blood flow to a particular area. For short periods, it's pleasurable and fun. But it's very important not to overdo it or push the time. Most experts recommend starting with 15 to 20 minutes.
Immediately remove the clamps or pins if the skin seems less flushed or you feel real pain. As you use the clamps more, you'll be able to judge exactly how long you can wear them safely. It's much better to take them off early rather than to leave them on too long.
If you're using weighted clamps, start lighter and work your way up to heavier weights.
Megatron says, "For your first session with wooden clothespins, try clipping a number of pins along each side of the vaginal opening, on the outer labia. When you stand up, you should feel a gentle and pleasing tugging sensation."
3. Don't limit yourself.
Don't restrict yourself to one type of clamp. Most types of nipple clamps can also be used on the labia. You can also purchase clamps with interchangeable weights so you can increase the heaviness.
You can incorporate other kinds of sex play with the labia clamps by using blindfolds, handcuffs, and other kinds of restraints. You can even wear the labia clamps while you're at work or in public — it can be your sexy little secret.
4. Don't put them the exact same spot every time.
You don't want to tear, cut, bruise, or injure your labia. Abrasions on your labia can allow bacteria to enter your bloodstream and lead to a whole bunch of problems such as sexually transmitted infections. So move those clamps from place to place.
You can clamp either the inner or outer labia, but remember that because the outer labia are usually thicker, they can hold up to intense clamping better than the thinner and more delicate inner labia.
5. Be aroused before you begin and when you're done.
Everything always feels better when you're aroused but especially when you're using labia clamps. Being excited is especially helpful for when the clamps are removed. For many women, removing the clamps makes them feel extra sensitive and removal is when it hurts the most because circulation is returning to the area, causing it to swell.
Megatron writes, "For those of us who like pain, stronger genital clamps can feel deliciously wicked, and can deliver the harsh sensations we crave."
6. Learn how to handle your clamps.
When using the labia clamps, try to stretch the lips evenly over their total width. It's often better to attach two or more lighter clamps than one extra heavy clamp. Also, try to resist over-tightening the clamps as you may go too far too fast.
7. Keep your hands and labia dry.
It's easier to put the clamps if the edges of your labia aren't super-slippery. If you have any lube or moisture on your hands, you might cause the clamp to slip out of your grasp when removing it and the clamp could snap back down on the skin. Not fun, and a guarantee that you'll experience pain that isn't pleasurable.
8. Clean the clamps and sterilize after use.
Most clamps can be cleaned with warm water and an anti-bacterial soap. If you're using stainless steel clamps you can sterilize them in boiling water. It's always a good idea to take proper care of your toys. You want them to last a while and you don't want any bacterial issues to affect your health.
Labia clamps are an easy way to take your curiosity in the mixing of pain and pleasure to the next level.
If you want to learn more about labia clamps and how to use them, check out Sunny Megatron's video below: