What you get is usually better than what you wanted.
My favorite saying ever goes something like this: Just because things aren’t going your way doesn’t mean things aren’t going your way.
I know it sounds like a mixed message, but the intent behind is actually hella deep. So often we think we know what’s best for us and the exact kind of love we want.
Often what we get is better than what we wanted.
But then a few weeks later you meet another guy who you actually like a lot more ... or you get a job opportunity in a city you’ve always wanted to live in, or some other awesome curveball gets thrown your way you never predicted.
When you learn to trust that God, the universe, Morgan Freeman (or whatever you believe in) always has your back, you start to realize that nothing can really go wrong.
Even the wrong things lead to something right.
I know I sound slightly like your annoying hippie aunt who’s always barefoot, but it’s true. You don’t control how you find love, and the more you try to, the more something much bigger than you will have to remind you that you don’t.
Sometimes we don't even realize when we're trying to force something.
We ignore our gut instinct that tries to tell us to move on, and we stay.
We think triple-texting him when he doesn't reply is cute and not crazy.
Or we keep waiting around for a guy who clearly doesn't like us because we think he's the only one we'll ever feel that spark with.
Wouldn't we all be a heck of a lot happier if we just let go and learned to trust that good things are coming?
Stop forcing things. Stop holding on. Stop refusing to budge.
The sooner you accept that you are not in control of how love enters your life, the happier you'll be.
You can enjoy being single and creating the life you want and deserve. When the right guy comes along, you'll know it because you won't have to do anything crazy to make it happen.
Live your life with the trust of something bigger than you and big things will come.