The 5 Weirdest Theories About Falling In Love, According To Research
The science of falling in love.
From kindergarten romances to marriage experts, every stage of life is full of trying to figure out love. We learn from experience and friends’ horror stories, from reading columns, and from Mom’s tried-and-true advice. But when it comes to romance, there are some pretty outrageous theories out there about falling, being, and staying in love.
Here are 5 of science's weirdest theories about falling in love, according to research:
1. Your diet determines your dating life
This sounds eerily like a twisted version of you are what you eat, but according to a study from the dating app Are You Interested? men were more likely to reach out to vegetarian women, while women were more likely to hit up meat-eaters. The extent of the plate-to-lust veracity is questionable, but it’s a cool thought to have while you’re dining.
2. We look for partners who are like our family
This theory is based on the idea that we surround ourselves with familiarity, which we can get on board with. We are accustomed to having a certain balance in relationships, so it makes sense that we subconsciously search for that in a partner. But once your boyfriend starts wearing the same aftershave as your dad, it’s time to take a step back.
3. You can find love only when you stop looking for it
Does any single person ever really stop looking for love? Doubtful. But instead of making it an active part of your life, finding love should come organically. Focus your time on other things that enrich your life. The love of your life might just be in the back of your favorite bookstore or share your affinity for Sunday morning farmers markets.
4. Falling in love is like cocaine
Well, except it’s not illegal. According to a study from the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, our brains light up in love in the same way they would if we were high on cocaine. It almost makes sense — love is a rush and it can certainly be addictive.
5. It only takes four minutes to fall in love.
Finally, a way millennials can find romance. Nothing says true love like instant gratification, and here’s your chance to prove wrong all of those who say love requires time to build trust and commitment. According to a study repurposed by the New York Times, four minutes of staring can get you feeling lovey-dovey. But four uninterrupted minutes of a single activity? Seems like there’s nothing left to do but fall in love. Has one of these love theories worked in your life?
Hayley Matthews is a writer who focuses on love and relationships. She oversees content strategy, social media engagement, and media opportunities for Dating Advice.