4 Tricks Strong Women Do That Make Them INCREDIBLY Attractive

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You know those enviable women who seem to effortlessly catch men's attention wherever they go? The ones who walk into a room and instantly make every guy swoon without lifting a finger?

While it's tempting to simply be jealous of these women, you'd be much better off learning what tricks they have up their sleeves. (Just because they make it look effortless doesn't mean it is, after all.)

We went directly to the YourTango Experts to discover exactly what it is about these strong women that makes men fall for them like no other, and it turns out that their secrets are SUPER simple. In fact, any woman, no matter how shy or nervous, can put these tips to good use and see a huge difference in her dating life.

These are the 4 things ALL strong women do that make men crazy about them:

1. They're fiercely independent.


Strong women know what they want out of life, and — more importantly — they know that if they want something, they have to get it for themselves. Taking that kind of initiative doesn't scare them; it's just part of who they are.

This quality is extremely important when it comes to dating, too. "Be independent," says Arianna Thomopulus. "No one likes to feel they’re the sole purpose for someone else's happiness. I have a quote that states 'You never want someone to complete your life, you want them to complement it.' And be strong, both figuratively and literally. You don't have to be strong all the time, but let him know you got this!"

Arianna Thomopulus (The Modern Day Girlfriend) is a modern day relationship & lifestyle blogger who specializes in advice for living and loving in the digital age one click at a time. You can learn more about The Modern Day Girlfriend at www.themoderndaygirlfriend.com or follow her on Instagram/Twitter @moderndaygf or FB: The Modern Day Girlfriend. / Pinterest @moderndaygf.


2. They don't need a man, they want one.


Guys have a kind of sixth sense for desperation in women, and they usually don't find it attractive (and if they do, they probably have shady motives anyway). For strong women, having a man in their lives isn't a necessity, it's a plus.

According to expert Sarah Kowolski, this applies even when you feel like your biological clock is ticking faster than you'd like. "Don’t desperately search for a baby daddy, even if you're approaching the end of your fertility," she says. "Men can smell the desperation and urgency to have a baby pronto, and it usually makes them bolt. Instead, if you're reaching 40 and really want a baby, go have a baby on your own and return to finding a romantic partner afterward. You remove desperation and urgency from your life, and show that you're independent, self-possessed and not afraid to make your dreams a reality. That combination is irresistible to the right man."

Sarah Kowalski is a life coach and single mom by choice who helps women become mothers, no matter what it takes. You can follow her blog at Motherhood Reimagined or join her on Facebook.


3. They're confident in themselves.


Strong women know exactly who they are, and aren't afraid to show it. That quality is one of the many things that great guys love about them.

Arianna Thomopulus says, "Be Confident. Don’t be cocky or ego-driven, but do remember and know your worth and what you bring to the table." And don't be afraid to show off your unique quirks or even your wild side once in a while. She adds, "Men want to know you have a healthy appetite, not only at the table but for life as well."

A woman who is confident carries herself differently, and men definitely notice that distinction.  

"There's something incredibly attractive about a woman who loves herself, is comfortable in her own skin, and embraces all that she is. She stands tall, appreciates her unique qualities and sees that she is beautiful in her own way," says expert Jessica Brighton. "I call this self-love and it’s not always easy to do, but once you fall in love with yourself others will too. It took me years to learn self-love and self-acceptance. I spent most of my life feeling insecure, comparing myself to others and focusing on what I wasn’t as opposed to what I was. Once I recognized that my uniqueness was a gift and appreciated who I was and the experiences that shaped me, others began to take notice and appreciated me for who I was and what I had been through in my life. I hope that you also embrace and love yourself and everything that you are.”

Jessica Brighton is a former escort turned relationship coach. She partners with couples and singles to help them rekindle or build fulfilling relationships. Learn more about Jess and her work at www.jessicabrighton.com or email her at jess@jessicabrighton.com to learn more about how she can help you have the relationship of your dreams. 


4. They don't play games.


Guys who are actually worth your time aren't going to be playing games when it comes to dating, so why should you?

Expert Janet Og Zimmerman explains, "Strong women who are incredibly attractive communicate openly, knowing that it’s essential to a meaningful and harmonious relationship. By expressing their true thoughts and feelings, they're understood and their partner feels safe to open up and share in return. In difficult situations, they listen openly and communicate respectfully."

Sounds like a win-win to us!

Janet Ong Zimmerman is a Courtship and Relationship Mentor. You can follow her blog at Love for Successful Women or subscribe to her YouTube Channel for answers to love's dilemmas.

To be a strong woman, you don't have to change yourself, you just need to be yourself and be proud of it. That is what will really make great guys find you irresistable.

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