If you want to rev things up, putting in the effort is a MUST.
It's a well known fact that every relationship has its ups and downs. And sometimes, those peaks and valleys are in the bedroom.
If you're like most people, in the beginning you never had any complaints about your sex life. When it came to intimacy, you and your partner connected physically, emotionally and mentally. But somehow, things took a shift in the bedroom department. One day, when you weren't looking, the novelty wore off.
Now, sex has gone from being a way to express your love for your partner to a boring routine. Instead of it bringing you closer together, the guilt you feel starts pushing you further apart.
How can you revitalize your sex life if you don't know why you lost those sparks in the first place?
There's no question that dealing with desire discrepancy can take a toll on your relationship. After all, making sure that the passion does not take a steady downward dive is easier said than done. But don't worry. Because we know how crucial this is, we asked our experts to weigh in.
Host Dr. Tammy Nelson, Imago Institute's Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Tony Victor LCPC, Sue Butler LMFT and Certified Sex Therapist Kimberly Anderson jump right into why your sex drive is lagging. They also offer foolproof tips on how you can nurse your sex life back to health.
Kimberly Resnick Anderson raises an excellent point about why you eventually lose that feeling. At 0:41, she impressively breaks intimacy down to an exact science.
She says, "in the beginning of a relationship, you are [influenced by] dopamine. And so you have those wonderful feelings and endorphins and you feel crazy in love. That is going to wane after about a year and a half to two years. So anything that you can do to activate novelty or something that's different is going to reactivate that dopamine trigger."
If you want to rev things up, putting in the effort is a MUST. Do yourself a favor: Don't let daily stressors or obligations get in the way.