How To Fight For What You Deserve (Without Being Needy) [VIDEO]


Don't EVER settle!

It probably goes without saying but when you're in a relationship (especially with someone that you really love and trust), being able to ask for what you need is incredibly vital. Seriously, there is no question that this level of trust that comes with believing that your partner is giving enough to take your needs into consideration can make or break relationships; in fact, your wants and needs are arguably two of the biggest things that you should discuss with your partner. 

But for some reason, people automatically assume that asking for certain things means that you're a stage five clinger. And we're just going to have to stop you right there. There's a reason why YourTango's Founder/CEO Andrea Miller, Imago Institute's Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt, Family Therapist Joyce Fine, LPC Jamie Simkins Rogers and the Relationship Help Doctor Dr. Rhoberta Shaler stress that you have to fight for what you deserve. Because at the end of the day, you deserve someone who will give you the world without making you feel like you have to settle. But it's also important to remember that this definitely goes both ways. When it comes to making sure that our needs are being met, two questions come to mind:

  1. Is there a way to ask without seeming too needy?
  2. Is being needy necessarily a bad thing?

Not only will our experts' advice on how to express your needs will help you strengthen the foundation that your relationship was built on, it'll help you grow—together.


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