7 Dating Apps That Show Off Your Sexiest Trait... Confidence!

7 Dating Apps That Show Off Your Sexiest Trait... Confidence!

7 Dating Apps That Show Off Your Sexiest Trait... Confidence!

The sexiest curve on your body is your smile.

Forget little black dresses, bright red lipstick and a perfectly executed cat eye. Nothing looks sexier on a woman than self-confidence.

The ability to really know and embrace who you are goes a long way in both life and love. The heroine of Tawny Weber's newest Harlequin Blaze title in her military miniseries, A SEAL's Kiss, is just that. Sage Taylor is a true Harlequin Blaze leading lady and we're definitely taking notes on her vibrant self-confidence.

New York Times bestselling author Tawny Weber says,  "I love creating characters like Sage because even when she doesn’t know exactly what she wants, this girl has absolutely no doubt that once she figures it out, she'll get it—as the sexy hero Aiden discovers."

But how do you brave the digital fray without losing your most attractive feature? Approach online dating with a plan — and choose the platform that lets you shine.

We've highlighted seven popular dating apps. See how you can use each to exude confidence right through the screen.

1. HowAboutWe
HowAboutWe bills itself as the "offline" dating site, since the goal of this service is for a couple to connect based on a shared interest — such as eating dumplings or listening to live jazz — and then to get out there and do said activity together. Users post date ideas, other users who dig the idea respond and either the magic happens or it doesn't.

Pictures are worth a thousand words, but when it comes to showcasing the areas you feel most confident about — like your commitment to volunteering or your PhD in art history — HAW is the site to let your great ideas, and not just your pretty face, shine.

2. Twine Canvas
Like HowAboutWe, this site aims to help you tell your story with more than just a cookie-cutter profile. Instead, users create "personality canvases" — collages of pictures that represent their interests and personalities.

The site makes matches and reveals profile photos only when two people "like" each other’s canvas. This way, you get to lead with the qualities that you feel define who you are — and therefore feel most confident about — like your mastery of the violin, your military background or your ability to bake a tarte tatin (it’s a serious feat, people!).

3. Tinder
You might be surprised to find hookup-friendly Tinder on the list, but as other sites have started figuring out, the app that’s growing at lightning speed is actually good for supporting users' self-confidence. The main reason? There's less investment.

On most dating sites, you spend time and energy crafting a witty profile or a message that makes you stand out — only to be met with radio silence. On Tinder, you're only connected with a user once each of you has liked the other’s profile photo. So, from the get-go, you know there’s a mutual attraction.

And if someone doesn't like you back, chances are you've "liked" so many photos in a day you won't even remember the crazy fools who passed on you.

4. Grouper
The Grouper team obviously buys into the whole "strength in numbers" idea. On Grouper, you choose two friends to join you as wingmen/wingwomen on a date with three other "Groupers." The site matches groups based on age, education, interests and other info gleaned from users' Facebook profiles.

Because it's not a one-on-one date, there’s not nearly as much pressure. Instead of focusing on whether or not your date was into you, you can focus on having fun with your new friends and being your magical, confident self. 

5. Revealr
If you've ever been turned on (or off) based simply on the sound of someone's voice, you know how strongly voice can factor into attraction. Studies have shown that 75% of the time, people can correctly match someone’s picture to his or her voice, so you actually can get a good sense of what someone may look like based on voice alone.

Revealr is a new dating app that works like Tinder except the profile photo that's displayed is pixelated. The main attraction, instead, is a 20-second audio clip of the user introducing him- or herself. Once two users like each other's voices, the site reveals photos and other details.

When you feel confident, your voice exudes it. So get on Revealr and start talking, all you confident ladies!

6. Hinge
Hinge connects users through their Facebook profiles, which means that the profile you see is the same one that a potential date's family and friends see, too. In other words, besides the usual Facebook embellishments, you get a fairly authentic overview of someone.

It's a pretty bold move to choose to share a Facebook profile with a potential date (Hinge displays your education, work history, and so on — as well as your 25 most recent profile pictures, but not your status updates or timeline info), so the message that comes across is: I'm confident enough to not need to create overinflated online dating profiles. And that's pretty cool.

7. Ditch the apps & go do the things you love to do
OK, so this last one isn’t an app at all. Some of us have gotten so comfortable looking for Mr. or Ms. Right online that we've forgotten the art of meeting someone offline. Nothing shows off confidence more than striking up conversation with someone new.

And if you're both doing something you enjoy — like rock-climbing, yoga or learning Mandarin — chances are you’ll have a lot to talk about.

Plus, research shows that men are more likely to approach a woman who seems confident (ie. those who smile, sit up straight, make eye contact, etc.) than one who simply looks good.


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