Why Being Submissive In A Relationship Can Actually Empower You

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Why Being Submissive In A Relationship Can Actually Empower You
Who says domination and submission are taboo? Being sexually daring can boost your love life!

The subjects of submission and domination in sex are generally "taboo" because they paint a picture of dingy dark rooms, where strangers get together to practice unthinkable acts. Images of leather-clad dominatrixes and men being whipped, tied up, and gagged conjure up other-worldly, abnormal—even slightly disturbedtypes of people. However, this is just not true. These preconceived ideas are what has made this subject slightly taboo.

There is also the misconception that being submissive is not empowering and this actually is not true either. In fact, being submissive can enhance sexual intimacy

But before I address this, it's important to highlight what domination is and is not and what submission is and is not. Domination is about being sexually in control, where the dominating person writes the rules of what they are going to do, when they are going to do it, and how they are going to deliver the goods. On the other hand, being submissive means adhering to the whims of the one in control. The submissive is totally at the mercy of the dominating person.

There is, however, a distinction between what healthy domination and submission entails and unhealthy examples of it. For these practices to be healthy, both parties need to be dedicated to creating something that they are happy with. They need to do so with trust and respect. If the experimentation goes too far for one of them, then the other needs to respect that. Experimentation is about seeing how far you can go, and if part of getting out of your comfort zone is to say no, then that needs to be acknowledged by the other person. What is "too far" also needs to be discussed before playing these roles, so that both partners know where their boundaries lie. 

Not exploring what is okay for each party could be deemed as unhealthy, because there would be no room to really understand how far they can go before too much is truly too much. Keep reading...

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