5 Signs That Most Men Are (Secretly) Hopeless Romantics

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A male wedding columnist discovers that he's not the only hopeless romantic with a Y-chromosome.

Here's a poorly kept secret: Men are also from Venus. That's what I've learned after six years of writing for The New York Times wedding section—also known as the Ladies' Sports Pages.

Sure, a few thousand years' history of raping and pillaging suggests otherwise, but beneath the stubble and the Sportscenter addiction, most men are as confused, vulnerable and romantic as women when it comes to falling in love.

Did I mention I'm also one of those men?

Yes, I'm a single guy who has written about thousands of weddings (always the wedding columnist, never the groom). And it's been an education—and a relief—to learn I'm not the only hopeless romantic with a Y-chromosome. In fact, I've found that men harbor just as many romantic fantasies as women.

That doesn't mean I haven't noticed differences between the sexes: Women seem to view romance as a state of being, while men tend to look at it more as a sequence of specific actions. Women share their emotions with greater ease. And a BIG difference is that women get much more excited about planning their wedding (even before they have a particular bridegroom in mind).

But it may be comforting to know that when it comes to the thrills, chills and spills of mating in the 21st century, men are equal and eager participants. If you're not convinced yet, consider the evidence:

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Written by Devan Sipher for The Frisky.

This article was originally published at The Frisky. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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