Recently here at YourTango, relationships expert Julianne Cantarella gave her advice about what to do when a guy prefers texting to calling you on the phone. Along with pointing out that if you're anti-texting you should address it early on in the relationship, she also stated the following: "Texting can create a false sense of intimacy allowing you to believe that you're in an exclusive relationship when you really aren't." My response? Denial is a beautiful thing.
Personally, the thought of talking on the phone literally pains me. Since this is 2012, and we have several other ways to communicate with people we're dating (texting, emailing, Face Time, BBM), why should we be calling anyone? It's so awkward and strange, and people end up talking over each other, and you have to say things like "What? I couldn't hear you! Could you repeat that?" If that's not bad enough, there's dealing with saying good-bye, which is also foreign and uncomfortable and can lead to: "Oh, okay, well, yeah, yep… goodbye… oh, sure… talk to you later… mhm…" I don't know about you, but I do not want to put myself through that ever again.
Case in point: Last week, a guy called me "just to talk." I was confused. What did he mean? He just wanted to talk and see how my day was? Did he not know that such inquiries could be texted and I'd respond as soon as I had a free moment? Granted, I picked up the phone, because I assumed he was dying or something tragic for which you would actually use the phone, but he just wanted to chat about our day. Well, honestly, my day was great until he decided to call and make it all weird. I stumbled over my words, told him I hoped his day was going well, and hung up. I then followed the conversation with a text that simply said: "Don't ever do that again."
It's an interesting contrast to when I was a kid or teenager and would talk on the phone for hours with my friends, but these days I just dread it. So, if you're under 40 and still like to call people up "just to chat," please get with the program. Like I said, it's 2012 and texting exists for a reason. Besides, isn't talking face-to-face better? Text to make your plans, then go out and chat it up in real life — it's far more fun, and there's no hassle or misunderstandings when you can see the person's face in front of you.
Do you agree that talking on the phone sucks or am I completely crazy?
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