The "Couple's Resolution" That Strengthened Our Marriage


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One writer enlists her husband to help make resolutions for the year—as a couple.

The beginning of a new year brings with it those unattainable resolutions we set for ourselves that somehow seem to fade come February. Making a resolution of any kind by yourself can be a pretty daunting task. There's just something about setting and keeping a goal for an entire year that makes our brain go nuts.    

So how do you keep your resolutions from failing the minute after the clock strikes midnight? Get your partner or spouse involved to help you keep your resolutions. Instead of a New Year's resolution, make a couple's resolution. 10 Daily Living Resolutions For The New Year!


The only way I've found to keep my resolutions in check is to have someone else hold me accountable. Having someone stand by your side can make all the difference. Sometimes we set our goals too high and, in the end, set ourselves up for failure. That's why we need someone cheering us on towards the finish line, giving us an extra boost of confidence to keep going.

Making resolutions with your partner or spouse will help you stick to your promises, and your partner can help keep you motivated. The Bible explains to us in Ecclesiastes that, "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up" (4:9-10). 12 New Year's Resolutions Every Couple Should Make

My husband and I are not the best at setting resolutions and keeping them. We've both set resolutions individually in the past, but we've found it so hard to stay motivated to stick to our plans. Signing up for a gym membership is only half the battle if your goal is to lose weight. Shocker: You actually have to go to the gym and work out in order to lose those extra pounds.

Sometime last year I was riding in the car with my husband, and I saw his gym membership card hanging from his rear-view mirror. I leaned over and asked him, "When was the last time you used that?" He shrugged his shoulders and said he couldn't remember. That question got us both talking about the upcoming year and thinking about setting a few resolutions. Breakup With Brunch! 10 Easy Ways To Lose Weight As A Couple

We talked about resolutions we had set in the past (ahem, his gym membership). We talked about why those resolutions failed and what got in the way. We both laughed at ourselves when we said the same answer, "Life got in the way."  

We both came to the same conclusion. We wanted our goals to be a part of our lives. We didn't want lives to get in the way. We wanted to set a goal that would bring a positive change to our relationship. A goal that not only would make us stronger as individuals, but would also make our marriage stronger.    

We know that with the two of us combined, our resolutions will be so much easier to handle, so we decided to take on a resolution together as a team. A couple's resolution, if you will.  10 Ways To Make Your Marriage Last 10 Years

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