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10 Daily Living Resolutions For The New Year! [EXPERT]

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New Year's Resolution
The best way to reach your New Year's day goals starts with being truthful and realistic.
Daily practical New Year's resolutions to follow that will change your life in 2012!

Great dress? Check. Wonderful New Year's Eve gathering to attend? Check. Hot guy on your arm? Check. Champagne for the toast? Check. New Year's resolutions created and posted on the fridge, laying on your nightstand or inside of your iPhone? Check. 

Then you are all set to ring in 2012, right? Hmm...not so much.

You looked fabulous in that dress, the New Year's Eve party was super fun, the hot guy turned out not to be the man of your dreams but he was definitely hot and you had a great time with him! The champagne...ooh, the champagne! You drank a little too much champagne. But, New Year's Eve does only come once a year! So, no worries there. Now for the New Year's resolutions...umm, where did you place that list? What were they? Crap! Not again!

Let's face it ladies, we mean well when we create our resolutions each year. After all, these are things that we have been meaning to work on forever...or at least since last February (2011) when we fell off of the New Year's resolution bandwagon — again.

The issue with New Year's resolutions are that they tend to be impractical. Research shows that it takes at least 21-30 days to create a habit. It's easier to CREATE one or two habits at a time just as it is easier to BREAK one or two at a time. A huge list of items we want to work on and achieve by a certain date NOT because we are ready, but because of the symbolism of the date (New Year = fresh start) is a LOT to hold yourself accountable for. Then when February or March comes around and you are overwhelmed and have let the list slide away from you little by little; you begin beating yourself up for not staying on track — again! Who needs that? Don't we already have enough in our lives that we unnecessarily beat ourselves up for? Your Super Self-Esteem Tool

Contrary to the New Year's resolution tradition, there is NEVER a more perfect time than the present to change what you have been meaning to change; to create a new habit and/or do something a different way. Now is all that there ever is.

SO...I propose ten "Daily Living Resolutions". These resolutions are simple reminders that will help to keep you in the moment and on task. You do not have to wait until New Year's Day to start them, and if you fall off of one of them one day you can easily pick it back up. It is not necessary to adopt all of them! Pick which ones speak to you the most and start there! These Daily Living Resolutions will help keep you on track to living a productive life every day. Imagine that!

I guarantee that if you start living your life with these daily resolutions, you will find that you actually purchase that gym membership and GO to the gym; that you start being more discerning with who you go on those dates with; you pick up a new hobby, etc.

Why, you ask? Simply because you will have created more space in your life and you will have increased your self-worth. I don't know about you, but I would rather take THOSE resolutions and qualities to the bank any day. So let's dig in:

10 Daily Living Resolutions For 2012

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