"Prayer changes things." We've all heard this, and many of us probably believe it, at least in theory. But can it really work in the day-to-day dealings of your marriage? Can prayer really strengthen your marriage? Can it even rescue a marriage that's crumbling?
If you're not a person who is used to praying—or more specifically, praying daily—this can seem like a daunting task. How do you begin praying for your marriage? What do you say? And how do you know that it will work?
First of all, let me tell you that you're not alone. I am a person who has a deep love for the Lord, but, I'll confess, prayer often intimidates me. Despite this, I also believe that prayer does change things. Here's why:
Prayer invites God into our life and our relationships. And God desires good for us, in all aspects of our lives. That's the Bible's promise. So when God is with us and working on behalf of us, he is only working toward what's good.
"The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with. Elijah, for instance, human just like us, prayed hard that it wouldn't rain, and it didn't—not a drop for three and a half years. Then he prayed that it would rain, and it did. The showers came and everything started growing again." (James 5:17-19, MSG)
"Don't fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God's wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It's wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life." (Phillipians 4:6-7, MSG)
Start by praying for your spouse.