Can You Imagine A Life Without Sex?

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Can You Imagine A Life Without Sex?
A survey showed that 71 percent of asexuals are women.

As someone who makes a living writing about, lecturing on, and loving sexual interaction, it's difficult to imagine a world where sex doesn't matter. I'm not saying such a world doesn't exist—it certainly does.

The closest I came to understanding a no-sex life was when I went celibate two years ago. But that's different than asexuality. Asexuality is a sexual orientation along the same lines as bisexual, heterosexual, and homosexual. Celibacy is an act and a choice, and it can be measured in time. Celibacy definitely has a beginning and it usually has an end. It's different than being born without the experience of sexual attraction or the desire to engage in sexual activity. Asexuals can't turn their sex drive on, or off, for six months, like I did. But could a once sexual being turn into an asexual one?

The Asexual Visibility and Education Network's (AVEN) conducted a survey of 250 people who were asexual and 71 percent of them were female, the rest identified as male. The AVEN was created in 2001 to increase public acceptance and discourse around asexuality. What started with 100 members has grown into the tens of thousands. And there's now an asexual awareness week at the end of October, to shed more light on, and celebrate, this non-sexual orientation.

Every so often I think about what it might feel like if I never had sex on the brain. It's different than not wanting sex because of stress, children, or marital problems. It's never having a sex drive. Perhaps those who once thought they had a sex drive really never did. Sex was just a part of a relationship so you go through with the motions. But when it's not happening, for some people, it's not missed. Not even desired.

What would your life be like without sex? Read more at The Stir: Is It Possible That You're Asexual?

Written by Jamye Waxman for The Stir.

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